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writes:Everyone has been there. You fall in love with someone who you couldn't be with. Yet, you still love him and thinking about him from time to time brings a smile to your face. My time with this particular gentleman was relatively short and we never got into a relationship but I can't be thankful enough that he came into my life.A few years ago I met this attractive, tall, intelligent gentleman in one of my classes. We messaged each other on facebook for awhile and found out we had a lot in common. We both were distance runners and interested in doing marathons, we both want to be surgeons, just like me he prefers to be alone so he can study well, and is perfectly happy spending a saturday night watching a movie at home rather than at the club. We both shared the same passion for medicine and he was very down to earth. We ended up hanging out a few times and as I got to know him I knew he was the nicest guy I have ever met and had everything I wanted in a guy. He had the entire package: He was sweet, thoughtful, intelligent, a gentleman, in shape and had the most beautiful brown eyes I have ever seen. However, for some reason, nothing happened between us. I don't think he was looking for a relationship at the time and told me he thinks it would be a good idea to stay friends. That made me feel very disappointed because I was falling in love with him. I cared about him so much and just wanted to be his girlfriend. It was rather hard to get over him because I daydreamed about him a lot, he was always on my mind, I loved his personality and manners. He was unlike any other guy I have ever met; a true rarity, and when I would see things he likes such as Star Wars stuff or a black Pontiac Firebird (which is what he drives), it reminded me of him and it would be hard to deal with. Even now it brings tears to my eyes just recounting my experience and pain I felt at the time not knowing we couldn't be together!I eventually got over him, it was hard but it just takes time. I still love him but realize that we will never be in a relationship together. Which is something I have come to accept. There are plenty of other fish in the sea and he wasn't the only one with the entire package and one day I will find somebody just like him and he will feel the same way about me. The thing that helped me get over him was the fact that friendship is forever and girlfriends/boyfriends come and go. The relationship with your ex tends to always be awkward and I am thankful that most likely we will never become sour towards each other. However, in the past year we seemed to have drifted apart. We seldom talk to each other. Our lives are so busy right now with school that it is really hard to have any type of social life. Despite that, the love I feel towards him hasn't vanished and I think no less of him than I did on the first time we hung out together.I still think about him in a romantic way from time to time. Thats never going to change and I don't mind. It makes me smile thinking about him. When I see things that remind me of him and the things he likes, it makes me smile and feel good.Recently, he got into a relationship, he has a girlfriend now, the first one he has had in a very very long time. Fortunately, (for me) this happened almost 3 years later and I am over him. Upon finding out, I was very happy for him. (I think it would have been harder if it happened soon after he told me its a good idea to stay friends.) He deserves a nice girl who will love him and treat him the way he deserves to be treated. I still love him and I know I always will but its at the point where I love and care about him so much that I just want him to be happy and successful. It brings a smile to my face knowing he is happy with his girlfriend, doing well in school and just doing well in general. Every time something good happens to him, I can't help but thank God for keeping him on the successful path. It makes me happy knowing he is happy and to me that is the most important thing.
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reader, dr.2.be +, writes (13 July 2009):
dr.2.be is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank you everyone for your comments! :-)
Its great to know that there are others who are in the same situation. Who have moved on but will never forget that one they could never have. Yet thinking about them brings a smile to your face.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2009): Always look back and smile! He has left footprints on your heart! I know!
Remembering Woodstock!
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reader, ugh101 +, writes (5 July 2009):
 Oh i no how you feel. I rlly lke this guy. Hes way to old for me. I cant compare him to anyone cause they just cant measure up. I understand the car thing casue i am rlly into mustangs and look at him drivein a 2004 orange mustange convertiable black top GT.lol
I dnt lke to hear that i might just feel this way for mi whole life. ugh.
good luckXX
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reader, The Gentle Man  +, writes (5 July 2009):
 Im currently in a similar situation. When im with her I feel the happiest ive ever been in my entire life, when im with her all my problems are forgotten for that brief time we spend together.Even though im sad at times thinking that the woman I love will never feel the same way, most of the time I feel truly happy having such an amazing friend, something that most people struggle to find. So long as she is happy, im happier.I think that im a lucky guy for getting to know someone so special.
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reader, dr.2.be +, writes (4 July 2009):
dr.2.be is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSamantha x, Thank you for your comment! :-)
I definitely agree. The feeling I have for him is wonderful. It lifts my spirits and makes my day to think about him excelling in his future career and being happy in life. I can't imagine not being happy for him no matter what. The smile I get from thinking about him is so natural. I hope one day I will be able to see him again and share some small talk or catch up on life. As I haven't seen him in over a year. Occasionally we trade messages on facebook and I see his status updates and stuff on my homepage once an awhile and they are always positive so I know he is doing well. :-)
The physician world is rather small. Doctors always seem to know each other no matter where in the country they practice. It would be wonderful to see my friend at a conference one day. See how he has succeeded in his work, practice and in life. I would be wonderful to have a professional conversation with him in the future. Or talk to somebody who knows him too and share our positive experiences knowing him. The chances are there but I also may never see or hear about him again. I can't see that happening. He works so hard and I know he will be a well known physician some day as he has everything it takes.......intelligence, determination but most importantly passion and that will take him farther than the average doc. Regardless, I will never forget about him and he may not know it but I will always love him no matter what and be there for him if he needs it. (He knew/knows I "like" him, but I don't think he knows how much I really love him. I'm not going to tell him either as I don't want to make him feel awkward or ruin anything with his girlfriend.)
God Bless Him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2009): I think what you have described would fall into my definition of real love.
The way you feel about him is unconditional. You aren't putting any expectations on him, any terms and conditions. And the fact that you want him to be happy more than anything, even if it means not being with you...that says it all to me really.
It's nice to know that there is still genuine love around in the world! x
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