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writes:I am best friends with this guy, he has told me before i am one of his best girl mates..We have kissed each other (properly) when we were drinking quite a few times.. then we seem to go on as if nothing has happened until it happens again.Problem is now I can't get him out of my head :( The more times we kissed each other the more distant he has become.. I don't wanna lose him as a best friend, but I have not heard from him in months..normally he would text me most weekends.. what do you think is going on? the last night we went out he went with a girl in front of my face! it hurt a lot..I havent text him since then :(
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reader, fishdish  +, writes (20 August 2008):
 What was his track record beforehand, I think that can be a big predictor of how he handled the situation, his sudden coldness may not be anything personal, that is. I have a feelin though that he may have felt uncomfortable or had second thoughts about hooking up, maybe that it would jeopardize the friendship, and now has been avoiding you because he doesn't want to ruin it more, but by avoiding you he HAS made it turn more awkward. At least, this is a possibility. I think you need to meet up with him to talk, ask him what he's been up to and why you haven't been included in his plans, ideally even bring up the hookups and agree whether that's something that should stop taking place--don't compromise your own feelings though for the sake of hanging out with him though. you'll just get more hurt if you see him with new girls, like last time. I hope this helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2008): Well To Be Honest You Really SHouldnt Of Started Kissing In The First Place , No matter how drunk you were you really shouldnt have. Persides the point maybe he is just confussed about what has gone on and needs time to think or maybe he is waiting for you to text him. You should really talk it through with this guy because it seems like there is a big issue and it could badly efect your relationship as best friends.
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