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writes:Dear aunts.my ex is playing games with me and make my life miserable.iv known Owen from prep school.he has been my first everything.in 2006 WE CHEATED on each other.we apologised and things wer ok again.one nite we were making lov and i was ontop, he pushed me unmercifuly,calling me a whore because i was so sexualy experiencd than him and that he cant stop imagining me inbed with Tk,my ex.i ended the relationship coz i felt so emotionaly hurt.i even stoped comunicating.but lately he cals me often asking for another chance.im happy with my new boyfriend but the memories we shared makes me want to be back with him.im confused,pleaseeee help Reply to this Question
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reader, Carrot2000  +, writes (9 June 2010):
 Remember how you cheated on each other?
Remember how he called you a whore?
Remember how he hurt you emotionally?
Get real with yourself and acknowledge that some of these "memories" that you cherish aren't all good. Actually, you have not said one positive thing about your ex or your relationship with him. You're happy now, but it sounds like you miss the drama of your previous relationship, which is really unhealthy.
I suggest you start making new memories with your current boyfriend and stop reaching back into the past.
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reader, BunnyTee +, writes (9 June 2010):
 If you're happy with your new b/f then stay that way. Also, keep in mind: your ex is an ex for a reason and there's a wilderness of horrors back there with him. Having a selective memory about just the good times, to the exclusion of the horrific bad that caused you to unload him in the first place is never a good way to think. Be smart!
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reader, Ruby Red +, writes (9 June 2010):
 The question is why would you want your ex back? Is it the physical aspect? Especially if you are now in a more positive, productive relationship. You have to look at the reason you broke up in the first place and think if that's something you want to deal with again!
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