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writes:hi, the names brian, im 17, turning 18 in 3 months, and this is my story of the love I have for a teacher I havent known for to long. I warn you this story is very long but it is interesting once you get into it.It is more of a story than a question but I still want feedback.So if you could please give me some advice on how to handle this it would be greatly appreciated. Thanks.Ok, so one day in early June of this year, I was at the gym doing my daily workout. I wasnt thinking anything great was going to happen that day. but I was oh so wrong... Out of nowhere I see this woman walking into the weight room and my heart just drops. I never had this feeling for anybody. It was like somebody pulled a major artery from my heart and i was speechless. She was so beautiful I think i forgot to breathe. My eyes were locked to her and i couldnt look away. She was so unique. She looked about 5 foot 4 inches, shoulder length brown hair, such an amazing face, lips that look like their asking to be kissed, and a body that is to die for. As I saw her walk in she took a quick gaze at me and smiled at me. Her smile seemed so pure and so sweet I didnt know how to react so i made a quick smile back and looked away. It was the first time in my life that any woman has ever tookin my breath away like that. It was this new feeling that I didnt know how to react to.Now, I wanted to talk to her but I felt like it was to much for me to handle so I didnt go up to her or anything.So the next day I show up to the gym again at the usual time and I was really anxious to see her again. But she never showed up. And this happend for about a week so i kind of just dropped it. Now back then this wasnt hard to do because I knew nothing about her, and i didnt feel like God intended me to have somebody as beautiful as her. So months passed without me seeing her and eventually I forgot about her, but not entirely enough to where shes been completely whiped from my mind. I still wondered what it would have been like to hear her voice or hold or hand or things like that. Anyway, August something, the first day of school. Senior year. Was a pretty chill day, wasnt bad for my last first day of school i'd ever have. So after school I went straight to the gym as always. But something was different this time.The beauty I had the pleasure of seeing had once again came again. And I was not about to let her go again without me atleast saying something. So I gave it a little time, then I grew the courage to talk to her. Her voice was like just I imagined. Like harps from heaven playing their heavenly tunes. I told her she was the most beautiful woman ive ever had the pleasure of meeting. So we started talking and then, out of nowhere, the unthinkable happend....She told me she was a teacher. But not just any teacher, she is a freshmen english teacher at my highschool. It didnt hit me at first, but after I went home that day, it got me good. I was like, great, I have no chance now. But later that night something in my head just told me, no matter what occupation she has, she is still a woman before anything else.So I ended up writing a letter that I would read to her face to face. The reason for that is because everytime I wanted to talk to her I wouldnt think of what to say and I'd look like a fool. So I wrote the letter and a couple of days passed until she showed up at the gym once again. I read the letter to her, and in the letter I pointed out that the law is against me and wont let me make anything of this feeling I have for her but I still wanted her to know how i feel for her. So she told me "yea thats true the law restricts teachers on a lot of things, but if u graduate its a different story". That statement gave me hope. But there is a slight problem. I was already enrolled into the army reserves and I am to be shipped out next summer to basic a few weeks after I graduate. Now I am willing to risk just about anything to be with her, or at least spend as much time as possible with her. So now, we still talk and all, and I can finally hold a conversation with her and not look like an idiot, but the feelings I had for her are no longer the same. They are the same feelings, but boosted by 10,000! My mind and body are telling me that she is the one that I want to spend the rest of my life with. And I know im to young to be saying things like that, and I also have like, 100% NO experience with girls, let alone girls my own age. But that doesnt affect me.I have the most strongest feelings for her that I have ever felt in my life. I can proudly say I am truely inlove with her. Like to me, true love is like a book. A book that is so good you read it hundreds of times and it still gives you the chills everytime you read it. It is the book that stands out infront of all the other books in the library. Thats how i feel about her. I want to know everything about her, I want to be her everything. Now what I plan on doing is inviting her to bible study tomorrow at the local community center where the gym is so it would be convienient. But she is a teacher and teachers have jobs to do, papers to grade, lesson plans to plan, all that stuff. But I will do my best to see that she at least comes to one with me. Because to me, there couldnt be anything better then having her by my side, worshiping god together. That is a beautiful picture that I want to make come true. But my mainplan is after bible study I want to truely tell her where she is in my heart. I just want her to know exactly what she means to me. I want to tell her that I want to spend as much time I have with her as i can before I leave. Regardless of the law.Ok I guess what im really asking is what do you guys do about the situation im in. Do you think im just wasting my time? Do you think im just a stalker who needs to get a new hobby? I dont think i am, but hey, maybe you do. Just speak up please.Also, girls im just wondering, how would you feel if a guy felt like this over you? Reply to this Question
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reader, BrianC +, writes (18 September 2010):
BrianC is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwow loopy you must be some teacher. But no offense to you personally but if the teacher was like you I wouldnt have the same feelings that I do for her now. I'm not looking for sexual situations with her right now. I'm waiting for marriage for that kind of stuff. And yea im pretty sure shes got some freshmen guys gettin their hormones raging. And I also realize that having a highschool guy falling in love with her also isnt in her agenda. But if worse comes to worst, I just want to be there for her/with her. She is a woman that if I cant end up with, I want to still have the connection with her as much as possible. Because she is frankly, the only girl that is so interesting to me and yet i know so little about her. Now I dont know about everyone else, but to me, somebody who has that much of an effect on me is definatly going to be seeing alot more of me.
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reader, loopy +, writes (17 September 2010):
 Brian C: this could be Me, Except I teach Science. I go to the GYM 3 days a week, I have Red hair, and Cheerleader looks ,maybe not Breath-taking beauty, but I am confident in most situations with my Self.I have two Students that are Seniors, An crush on me to the point of inclass masturbation. they do not know about each others efforts to impress me with sexuallity. One has written me poetry. The other has met my parents and works for my uncle in order to get inside my life.I do nothing to encourage them I wear consertive clothing no cleavage showing. no up skirts. Try very hard to keep my nipples to my self, but watching a full grown man masturbate,it is difficult not to be aroused to some degree. Yes I would Date both of them, after, they get off school property with diplomia in hand. Yes I would Screw what brains they have gained in 12 years, out, on to the back country road of thier choice.In fact I fantasize they team me in the bed of the blond ones Truck. You are not out of your tree for being in love with your teacher. But you must realize it may be a lost cause because of her previous plans for life and Proffesion. A lot of her last 10 years have been sweat into good grades and hard earned Money for this education she is Dedicated to. Your Competition is not so much the other men who find her attractive, as it is the life she has chosen to pursue. Orgasms and satisfied lust my be the future of Your next 7 months, but, her's is like mine probably we really have no long term intrest in being Mother to you/ or your babies just yet.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (14 September 2010):
 Honey even if you're a gorgeous teacher or a lovestruck teen, no one is above the law.
You know the law, depending upon what state you live in the legal age for consent is 16-18. I suggest looking into that. Now, the other issue at hand she is a teacher, and of course she cannot have relations with any of her students or that will result in her termination. She will then have to register as a sex offender if the student is underage and will lose her teaching license. What's the solution here? This one you already know, when you're of age and graduated then you can seek a relationship with this woman. Honestly, what concerns me about this post is you haven't had a girlfriend, so you have no experience whatsoever with girls let alone a woman. You have to get your feet wet in the dating pool in order to figure out what you want in a woman and what love really is. It takes experience...I know there are people who have married their first boyfriend/girlfriend and have been with them till death do them part. With that being said, it's not common but a mere possibility. You sound like a sweet young man, one who wears their heart on their sleeve. I say see what happens the day you graduate, if she wants to go out on a date and if a romance will develop in those few weeks you have before basic.
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reader, BrianC +, writes (14 September 2010):
BrianC is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks ms. anonymous but how would u go about proceeding with caution?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 September 2010): well, you're 18 in three months.... and i think every girl in the world dreams to have a boyfriend that feels the way you do about this woman... my advice to you is to be careful... you stand a decent shot of getting your young, naive heart broken. We need more people like you in the world, but unfortunately the world is not always nice to people like you. It's refreshing to see a younger man go for an older woman, instead of always going for younger woman, but... PLEASE BE CAREFUL. You can easily get your heart broken if she does not share your level of feelings and commitment... and judging by the fervor of your post, it would be tough for many people to match up. You sound like a good person, just take care of your heart and don't let it get trampled on, hurt, butchered, and ultimately jaded and disgusted. Proceed. But with caution.
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