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*ilkPudding
writes:Emm, here goes: My best friend, Ann has this admirer who confessed to her a year ago(and still likes her). The thing is I have always had a good impression of him until recently. I found out that he started spreading rumors about me being unreliable and the like (which is totally a lie!) and even told my best friends to desert me, including Ann, which they did not(Afterall, it has been 3 years of friendship). Then, when I confronted him, he totally denied doing any of these when he clearly did-in my face. Now, he's still pursuing her. I'm very worried what will happen if Ann accepts this hypocrite's confession. Can someone advice me what to do to get him away from her? I'm very sure that if Ann does accept him, our friendship would be ruined. This friendship, I've did everything to keep it, I've given in so many times, I've cried, I've laughed, I've gotten angry, but still, I managed to keep it. I really don't want it to end off because of some boy. Please, help me.
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reader, MilkPudding +, writes (14 April 2011):
MilkPudding is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI know, I should do that. But I really can't do it- its too hard. As I ve said, I gave Sooo much to this friendship,I can't lose it. I really can't. I just want to protect Ann from the guy and its not that she's making a decision between me and the guy, it's just prevention- just in case Ann really considers accepting him- so I need to get him away now to ensure nothing of that sort happens.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (14 April 2011):
 If she chooses this guy over you, then she isn't the good friend you thought she were.
YOU can NOY control what other people think, say or feel. Let her make up her own mind and go from there.
Don't worry about what other people say about you, if it isn't true, it isn't true. You can go around and throw out "gag order" to people.
Take the high road, ignore the bastard, hopefully everyone else will too.
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