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female
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30-35,
*maya153
writes:There's this guy I've had feelings for for nearly 5 years now. So when he started showing interest in me a couple of months ago, I couldn't believe my luck. We kissed at a party and texted afterwards. Then he started to ignore me. People said he's shy with girls and that's why he couldn't talk to me in person. Then at another party we kissed again and he said he was definitely gonna make more of an effort to text me, but he never did. When I see him everyday at school it hurts me so bad, especially when this girl keeps posting hearts on his facebook. Then rumors went around (untrue) about me kissing another guy and he got really mad and wouldn't talk to the guy I was supposed to have to kissed. He won't even look at me now :( I like him so much he's all I think about all the time... Please help me!!! What do you think he feels?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2012): There's no way for us to know and there's only one way to find out. Ask him.
Let's consider this guy for a moment:
1. He's shy with girls which means he's insecure and unsure of himself.
2. His reaction to hearing you got with another says to me he was convinced that his worst fears were realized.
Now considering the first thing there means you have to take reigns here, you have to be the chaser and you have to woo him. This isn't the 1950's OP you're free to take guys if you like them these days and it certainly sounds like he wants to be taken. If you're waiting for him to sweep you off your feet you're going to be waiting a long time.
The second thing tells me he likes you.
You see OP traditionally it's us guys who have to pursue, who have to prove our desire to the girls we want. You'll have to be the pursuer here and you'll have to take charge.
I'd recommend you stop sitting there wondering and waiting and take charge. Call him, ask him if he wants to meet up. Show him you like him ad show him you're not going to give up easily. Sometimes in life the things we want don't come to us so we have to take them. Don't be afraid to just go get him. If after you've tried to resolve this with him, he keeps acting cold, then you just move on, at least if you try, you can hold your head up and say you tried, and you'll have closure on the issue.
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