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writes:I'm seeing this guy and he keeps telling me that I need to move out of my moms house and get a job. I just got out of a five year relationship a year ago and had to quit my job because my ex stalks me. I have been looking for another job but having a hard time I don't have very many skills. I mostly do cashier jobs and can't make enough money to live on my own without a roommate. I have no self confidence and need to get my life together.I wish I would have never let my sister talk me into this blind date.I was not ready for this. Plus he points out everything wrong with me I FREAKING KNOW MY LIFE SUCKS BACK OFF. I know what he says is true but He makes me feel even worse about myself. Shouldn't he be trying to give me confidance he is not perfect ethier . Should I dump this guy and how long do you think I should wait to date agian cause if I wait until my life is together I maybe 40 years old.
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reader, michellesays  +, writes (26 March 2008):
you answered the question yourself he should be giving confidence and not making you feel bad about yourself you will never get the confidence back while you are with this man. and you will know when you are ready to start dating just concentrate on having fun untill you get everything sorted
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2008): It sounds like you need time to heal from the last relationship, and that, you need to take it one step at a time: slowly.
If your ex doesn't think your working there now, is it possible to return?
The current guy might be correct, and sees you wasting away, and maybe doesn't understand the point that you need time to get over certain things (the heal part). You might consider talking with him and asking he back off, that your fully aware what you need to do, but your struggling with it and if he can't be supportive, then you'll deal with it on your own terms.
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