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writes:My question is simple. I am goin to be 19 in a couple wks and i am currently kind of seeing a guy who is 16 yrs older than me. Thus he is 34. We were friends for aprox. 4mths before anything happened so one can say we have a good friendship; the only difference is that there is sex involved now. I would really like it to work but i am afraid of what my brother will say even though the two of us a far from close. The guy is a yr older than my brother and they know each other due to racing cars etc...I don't want to waist my time in a meaningless relationship. Actually in a relationship that is not even a realy relationship yet. (we are not officially bf and gf)I don't care what others will say, but i just would like some advice on the whole thing. Reply to this Question
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reader, Reebe  +, writes (28 March 2007):
 Hello
I think if you like this guy then age really doesn't matter.
I would take things very slowly, get used to the idea don't jump into a sexual relationship and get to know each other well.
If your friends and famiy have problems with this relationship (and they will because they care) try and keep calm about it and explain to them that you are taking things slowly and are just getting to know each other. They will except this more, if you show your not rushing into any thing. I went out with a guy who was 14 years older then me, while it didn't last we did have 2 great years together and are still friends today.
If you don't try then you won't know, as I've said take things slow and see how things go.
Hope this helps.
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reader, Dazzerg +, writes (28 March 2007):
 Age differences are always tricky, my general view is that as long as the difference is not outrageous and one party is clearly not being abused then anything goes. My friend wants to see somebody 20 years older and is fearing exactly the same thing as you.
You say you dont care what everybody thinks but you obviously do. It's a plus that your brother knows this guy because that will make it easier to accept. Maybe talk to him together and let your partner demonstrate how much he cares for you.
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