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writes:Its almost 4 am. Im awake. Thats ok,im student and study usualy at night. Well, here is the problem. Im dating with a guy who presumably now has problems with sleeping,... Dont want to sound unsympathetic or , but this guy knows that i have strict deadlines,that im running out of money,hadnt accepted good job just to graduate and he knows how important that is to me. Yet,he is calling at 2- 30 -3 or sending me sms,disfocusing me completely from my studies. he is aware, ive told him, that i do not want to be disturbed, yet he is continuing again and again!! Im so annoyed, tried to put on ignore but cannot. and certainly i do not want to change my mob.number just for him. he objected of me being cruel,and non listening but for god sake, i have also my things to do! And much more cumbersome than this!! How to solve this? How to let him know, not to disturb me when i have things to do! Why is he doing this? I tried to break up, he didnt accepted,....So annoyed and confused,i would like to settle this without mengling other parties!Any hint how ?
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reader, I Dont Lie +, writes (11 September 2007):
 You need to sort this out from the root, other wise it will never work. He clearly is not getting the picture that you require time to yourself to study. I suggest talking to him face to face nicely, try explaining to him that you really hope he supports you through this hard time. Let him know that you still want to be with him but just need this few weeks/months to concentrate on your work. I know youve already told him all this, but this time try going in with a calm voice, reassuring him that its ok to be distant yet close. He seems like the kind of guy who craves constant attention from his partner, clingy in other words.
However, if you really have had enough of it and wish to move on without him, you have to be hard and stern with him. Tell him its over and then turn off your phone or bar his number (you can do that on most phones) when you're studying. If he still fails to get he idea, thats when you have to be strong and just continue to shut him off. I know its mean but thats the only way a guy like him will get that its over. I bid you good luck.
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reader, baybee-x-sparkii  +, writes (11 September 2007):
 okay why dnt u tell him to stop calling u while ur trying to work [but heres the difference]and u'll spend a couple more hours with him than usual... or failing that why didn't u try studying together...is this an option?????mail me if u want more helpSparkii x
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