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writes: I really like a guy who's in the year above me at school. I have asked him out and he told me that he liked me but not in that way, and that we should still be friends. Since then, we haven't spoken or even looked in each others' eyes. I know and get on with his friends but I don't seem to talk to him anymore, and I get embarrassed when I see him. My friends tell me that it will take a while to get over him and I can't help my feelings. If he said we're still friends, does that mean there's no hard feelings? What can I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, wookiee's girlfriend +, writes (3 March 2006):
wookiee's girlfriend is verified as being by the original poster of the question thanks guys. it hasn't got any better since i asked him out. he seems really unhappy at school and even more when he sees me. does that mean he doesn't even want me as a friend? i can't stop thinking about him and i feel really down when i think about him. i don't feel the same about other guys in my own year because i'm friends with most of them. i have more in common with them, which makes us strong friends but the non-going-out kind of strong frinds.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2006): I totally agree with Smeedle. You were brave to ask him out, I wouldn't have done it. He rejected you but still wants to be your friend, does that not tell you how much he values your friendship? Next time you catch his eye, give him a smile and stroll over casually. What did you talk about before you asked him out? Just bring up a subject that you both enjoy talking about. Easy! Hopefully, this will break the ice and you can get on with your friendship.If you feel embarresed by it, then hold your head high and get on with what you did before you asked him out, you'll look even more silly if you show your true feelings. Take rejection easy. Here's a fact that may help you: 99% of people will get rejected at least four times in their life. You're lucky, this time wasn't as bad, but the next lad could make a huge deal. What you've got to remember is that life goes on!The most important part is, don't be put off asking lads out because of this one time. Make sure you get to know them well first as a friend before you ask them, otherwise it could be really embarresing. Try to keep your eyes off this guy, he's not available for you right now. Kepp your eyes peeled for some lads your own age that would be worthy of being your boyfriend. You'll have more in common with lads your own age, so you should stick with them.
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reader, smeedle  +, writes (25 February 2006):
 You were brave to ask him out and did the right thing in doing so, but he likes you in a friendship way and not in a girlfriend way so you do need to get over this awkwardness with him and him with you as this is all the avoiding each other is.
When you next see him smile and say hi then walk on by, this will ease the tension and may start the friendship again.
Look for a new bloke and just be friends with him.
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