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writes:we were on a school trip and me and my friends met up with these guys, some three years older than us, i really really liked one of them and he was so nice and funny...but he is three years older ad he has a girlfriendi cant just sit back and do nothing,but i cant think of what to dothen me and my friends all went to this club ad he was there and my friends say he was looking at mei am so confused!!! help....
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2008): Just because he has a girlfriend doesn't mean that it is a serious relationship. I do believe that if a person is married or engaged that they are off limits and it would be offensive and in very bad taste to pursue them. However, just having a boyfriend or girlfriend does not mean that there is a serious relationship there. He could just be dating her for someone to be with until the right person comes along. My wife did that before we met. She was dating a guy for about 8 months just to have someone to be with until something better came along. She had no long term interest in him. She broke up with him after our first date.
I would say that it would be OK to carefully pursue him, but if he lets you know that he has a serious relationship, then forget about him. If he is interested in you, then see what happens. However, know that he might want to date you as a fill-in also if that is what he is doing now. If he “cheats” on her then he might cheat on you. It might work out very well, but just be careful.
Also, be careful of the age difference and what is legal where you live. Would you be considered underage in this situation? If so, than don’t risk it. I don’t know what your laws are on that subject.
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reader, Somethingeasy  +, writes (1 March 2008):
 He was looking at you. My god I remember when love was as simple as someone giving you a look. HA, go talk to him on your own accord, and dont worry about the other girl if its ment to be it will.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (1 March 2008):
 Do you subscribe to the idea that a guy with a g/f is out of bounds?
If you do , then just forget about this guy.
There are no laws which say you cannot go after a man with a g/f.
I believe that as long as someone is not married, he/she is available.This is only my opinions.You can disagree with me.
If they are meant for each other, nothing will break them up. You can try but make sure you can compete with her , otherwise , you will be the loser.
May the best man win.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2008): Hi Hunny
I no your confussed and I no you like this fella but he has a girlfriend and If you did have a b/f and someone else tryed to take him off you hunny how would you feel. Im not being mean to you Im thinking of you, I do understand your pain I think we have all liked someone and then realised they are taken so then we have to move on... Its the right thing to do sweetheart, Im sorry for your pain but you will have to forget as he is taken TAKE CARE OF YOU LOVE N HUGS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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