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reader, Sexyteen  +, writes (20 May 2008):
 I am a girl and all but one of my good friends r males. They r just friends to me and when I get back into a relationship he is going to have to understand that. I think it is totally possible for males and females to just be friends. If she wanted to be with one of her friends she would be with them not with you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2008): I feel your pain . I'm bi and I like a boy and a girl and they both have many friends that are the oppisite and same sex and i gets to me . Just make yourself special. Not like everyone else . give her something to remember about you thats difrent and good and I'm sure she will pick you out of a crowd
*~VG~*
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reader, softballplaya +, writes (19 May 2008):
 alright, well i can answer this because me & my ex had this problem too. Dont control her. major rule here..she will prolly be upset if you tell her whom she can and cannot talk to. Your uncomfortable because unless these guys are gay then in your mind you feel there is a chance they will make a move on her. Dont feel like this because if she is with you and not them then thats her choice because obviously she likes you then. Some girls like to have male friends becasue they are less likely to start drama and most guys are very blunt and dont beat around the bush with things, so they are prolly her true friends. Its nothing personal hun its juss those are the people she feels more comfortable around.
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reader, lexilou  +, writes (19 May 2008):
 It seems to be the way of the world today and I love the fact my 16 year old daughter and 14 year old boy have lots of opposite sex friends that they hang out with. They all get on so well and there is none of the teasing I had as a teenager if you so much as spoke to a boy. If you are uncomfy you may just be feeling jealous which is natural as you feel you want to keep her for yourself. try not to let it bother you but be happy that your girl is popular and well liked, it means she is probably a really nice person. Get to know her friends and they will soon become yours x
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reader, To Understand +, writes (19 May 2008):
 hey :)
have you tried talking to her about it?
does she know how you feel?
i know what sitation your in,
my boyfriend recently felt the same way as you but he never realy told me so all i got was the cold shoulder from him and it made me feel as if i was doing stuff wrong but once he told me about whats going on
it realy was a big deal over nothing
me and him are patching things up because it has been such a issue that we didnt know where the other one stood.
and the best thign he ever did was tell me.
so my advise to you is that you should talk it with her, obviously this girl means alot to you that you dont want to loose her to anyone and are threatened by her male friends.
when realy she could never look at them in that way.
basicaly you need to be reasured.
just tell her how you feel.
hope it works out.
xx
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reader, fiiiiire +, writes (19 May 2008):
you're jealous... you just gotta have trust in this girl.. if you think something's up with her and these guys then just ask her about it..
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 May 2008): It makes you uncomfortable because:
a) she flirts with them, etc.
OR
b) you're an insecure person.
What can you do? Get to know them.
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