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*harathi1435
writes:Hi, i am 23 age boy who have a complicated life with my girl. anyone have idea please please tell me. I saw a girl who's looking good, homely character and i fall in love with her. She is the girl who is friend of my girl friend. And actually i saw the girl(lover) in my girl friend home. I didnt tell to my friend that i m fall in love with her friend. One Day i ask my friend to introduce your friends and i ask her to introduce a girl with good in character(bla bla bla) to propose. after a long conversation my friend tell two girls name(cate,angel)and their details, i didnt showup to my friend about my love. according to their details i catch my girl. but unfortunately i had selected the cate instead of angel.with out seeing my girl i talk to cate by mobile all the time. and proposed also..This matter is also know to angel (my girl). she helped to my love(wrong love)..some family problem cate doesnt accept my love. she think to be with me as friend. One day in my friend brother's reception i saw my girl(angel). on that time a girl ran off with shy seeing me. i ask my friend who's that girl. they told she is cate. on that time only i know i proposed wrongly to some other girl.After a week later i speak with the cate about what had happen.. and i told the real fact. Cate says its ok. then for a few weeks i speak with both cate and angel.but i speak with angel more.she notice me that may be i am in love with her. she avoid me and we seperated. i didnt contact with these girls for a month. one day i call to angel and i ask the reason why you ignoring me. and she ask whether i am loving her. and i said yes. and she didnt talk with me. she think i am a cheat and a ladies rougue. i told the reason what happen. but she didnt trust me. i love her a lot. i show her picture to my family and got ok to marry her. but i didnt get ok from my lover.until now i have doubt with cate. i think cate is playing double game. i use to contact her by phone. not from my number. i use any landline numbers. please give me a solution to accept my love and marry her.
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (5 February 2010):
 There is a large cultural difference in the way you and your friends get to know a girl, fall in love and marry her than the way we do here, so keep in mind my advice might not be particularly helpful.
Why is it that you are in love with Angel? How much of it is appearance and fantasy and how much is based on the real person?
I ask because I get the sense you don't really know either of them very well. So Cate has told you she only sees you as a friend, but Angel thinks that because you proposed to Cate that you are a cheat and a rogue. I would have to say that if I were Cate or Angel, I would think that you are a bit of an idiot for not figuring out which girl is which. That you might be a bit superficial to fall in love with a girl based only on her appearance. There is far far more to a person, girls included, than appearance. Character cannot be determined solely by appearance, you have to get to know a person on the inside as well.
Is there any way you can spend time with Angel, with her family and your family present, so you can show her and her family that you are an honorable, if slightly stupid, young man? (The stupidity being that you mistook one girl for another.)
Apologize for your big mistake and realize that it may not be forgivable for Angel, that she may never trust you fully.
Good luck.
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