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writes: There's a girl I've known through college for over a year now and am pretty good friends with. I realised some time ago that I liked her, but I didn't persue this as she was, and is, with another guy. In that time, she's grown on me and I've now got pretty serious feelings for her. In the opinion of her best friend, there's a decent chance that, were she single, she'd be willing to go out with me.The problem is that recently, for one reason and another, she temporarily dropped out of college and now this is going to become permanent. She'll be officially leaving very shortly - owing to where I live, it will be extremely difficult, nigh impossible, for me to see her outside college once she has left. She doesn't know how I feel about her, but I promised myself that I would have told her by the time the college year ends The thing is that when I decided that I didn't see this coming - I'd envisioned having a matter of months to 'work with'; now it seems I've got a couple of days at best. What do I do? I'm tempted to say something casual like "if you want to go out for a drink sometime, you know my number", but don't know what kind of effect that would have. Some advice would be appreciated, quickly...
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reader, Granny +, writes (4 January 2007):
 So you are e-mailing us, why not e-mail her? You say you are pretty good friends with her, so just say you would like to keep in touch. Why not? That is what friends do. You know, just keep her up to date on college stuff and all that. Maybe a letter, a mail and could you call sometime? Tell her she is going to be missed as a classmate and friend. Just ask to keep in touch and see how it goes from there.
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reader, kenny  +, writes (4 January 2007):
 i know its hard, when you develop feelings for someone, those feelings get stronger and stronger, then it turns in to an infatuation. I think it is very wise not to pursue her as she currently has a boyfiend. As her best friend says there is a good chance she would go out with you if she were to become single, you are going to have to sit tight and hope that this happens.
As for her leaving college and it being diffucult to see her i don't see any harm in asking her out for a drink, but make it be known its just a mates, keep it real casual. Then keep in touch just as mates. Don't give off any flirtatious signals at this time due to her have a boyfriend.
Hope this helps you.
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