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writes:hello everyone.basically i would like to know what is your stance on the friend zone. As a guy i think that it's wrong. there is this girl who is a close friend but whenever i try to get closer to her she resists. however she wants to be my friend. she doesn't have a boyfriend and she knows that i don't have a girlfriend. i personally believe that she is twat blocking me and prevent me from getting other girls because they think we're together. i think the friend zone is harmful to single guys like me because it ruins our chances. it is destructive for married guys because it can lead to suspicions. it should only be for gay guys who don't want a girlfriend but like to discuss girl stuff. (i've known this girl for years) i am not a mean guy but should i drop this girl as a "close" friend? if yes how. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2011): I was close friends with a girl for 4-5 years, and I mean real close, like tell each other anything and everything close. Now she's my girlfriend and we're happy together. Look mate, ask her how she feels about you, maybe she's waiting for you to make the first move. And for Christ sake, don't just "drop her". Trust me, if you really like this girl then you won't let her go. Wouldn't you rather have her in your life as a friend than not in your life at all?
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reader, hannah76  +, writes (20 May 2011):
 Hello,
The friendship line is often misused. It really means I'm not into you in that way. While you are with this girl you are not happy and also it can prevent chances with other girls. So, if you are not happy just have a little chat with her and explain this to her. After all, you are both friends so it won't be a problem.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2011): Friendzones suck but they're always the fault of the person who wants more, for accepting friendship and hoping the other person will change their mind.
It's happened to me and it was my fault. I should have tried it on from the start and when she said she wasn't interested I should have just parted ways with her, because friendship with someone you want romantically doesn't work.
It is always the fault of the person with romantic feelings, yet some people seem to blame the other person for being their friend even though they knew they had feelings. That's just stupid, when someone says "just friends" you either accept that be just friends or you move on. You piss about pretending to be a persons friend all the while hoping to make them change their mind.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2011): What's the problem here? That you hate "friend zones" or that you think she's personally preventing you from going out with girls or that you actually want to hook up with her? I see no problem with friend zones. I've never had any problem with them, whatsoever. Maybe that's just me. If you have a problem with it, then tell her and drop her. (She's gonna think you are one paranoid devil, but sure) If you value the friendship you can find a way to make it work. If you like her, you should tell her.
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