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writes:i will try not to make this long! but basically i have had this friend who i have known for 3 years since college. during our time as friends the friendship began to get weak i noticed alot of flaws about her etc, anyway we both strted university last september and ended up going to different unis which for me was great as i saw this as a chance to get away from this friend and start again. however, a couple of weeks in she got a transfer to my uni doing the same course as me things began well and i introduced her to the friends i had made on the course etc like anyone would to help her settle. gradually over the coming months she began to act very distant with me and not include me in social events etc eventually it has no got to the point where a group of about 8 girls who r her friends who used to be my firends have totally cut all ties with me they ignore me, spread lies about me around uni etci know tht this is all her ever since she started the problems have started. she has manipulated them and talked lies, she ignores me gives me "dirty looks" all very childish and unnecessary. i dnt know why she is doing this i have not dne anything wrong to her the only reason i can think of is she is jealous of me but why??my problem is that she knows all my friends all my different social circles and she went to same college same university etc she seems to be evrywhere trying to still get close to and "in" my social circles, and i feel as though she is surrounding me. i dnt knw wt to do i have tried to ignore her the whole year but i still have to spend 3 more years with her at uni. it upsets me to be treated like this by people who have obeyed her and listened to her. what can i do to deal with this any suggestions please.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (26 August 2008):
Well you need to talk to the friends you have lost and find out why they are suddenly so angry with you.
Luckily there are a million clubs and groups you can join and make lots of new friends, so you can always move into new social circles if you old ones don't work out.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2008): You are right she is very jealous of you...if you really would like to have YOUR friends back. Then I suggest that you talk to them and try and explain to them how she is very manipulative and how you were just trying to be a friend...at least one of your friends shall hear you out...but if that does not work then you must leave those people alone and find better friends.
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