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*essiej1209
writes:I've been dating a guy and the first 2 dates went great, we had a lot to talk about and a great time (although these two times there was alcohol involved so we may have both been a little drunk from about halfway through the dates). However, the 3rd didn't go quite as well, we still had a laugh together but it was a little awkward in places, whereas the previous two dates had not been. I can be a bit shy and it takes me a while to be comfortable around people however I really wasn't shy on the first two dates (that it showed anyway) but for some reason I did feel more nervous on the 3rd date and i think this may have been why it was a little awkward. I wouldnt say that it was a bad date, it just felt more like a first date then the actual first date did! And from how well the first couple went, i think i expected the next one to go equally as well. Is a slightly bad 3rd date likely to have put him off me? Or does it mean the excitement of the first couple of dates wore off and we arent actually very suited? I still really like him, but just feel a bit embarassed that he might be wondering why on earth he invited me on a third date...
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reader, gregorsamsa +, writes (9 January 2012):
 The answer is that, sure, it's possible that it was the alcohol, but it also could have been several other things and the only way to really know is to go out with him again.
Yep, alcohol (consumed in the right setting) does magically make people more interesting, jokes funnier, and turn stale observation into charming wit. But there are myriad possible explanations for why your 3rd date was mediocre, such as: sometimes people sometimes have a finite amount in common -- once you've exhausted your common topics (i.e. talk about work/school) you realize there's not a whole lot left to be said. Maybe that's what happened. On the positive side, maybe you both got a little nervous since the first dates went well and were less natural on the 3rd. Maybe he'd just got through watching the Republican debates and felt wholly miserable right before he went out with you and his awkwardness was not a reflection of his normal mood or you at all.
Anyway, bad jokes aside, the point is that buzzed or not you're 2 for 3 on quality dates and it's worth investing in a 4th to see if the so-so one was just an anomaly or the way things really are.
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