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51-59,
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writes:Hi,Really hope you can give me some advice please! I met this really nice man about five months ago after chatting online, He has been separated from his wife for a couple of years and his divorce has just come through.We spend every weekend together if he is not out of the country as he is in the forces, I have met his family and his 2 children and i spend a lot of time with them, He lives 2 hours away so we take turns driving to see each other at the weekends. Everything is going great but here is the difficult part for me! His ex wife ran off with his best mate and he was comforting his best mates wife at the time and one thing led to another and they got together.Things didn't work out as it was very awkward for all the kids as she has 2 also. They split up about 9 months ago now. He told me they were still friends and they spoke to each other as she only lives around the corner from him. This was fine and i didn't have a problem with it.I was at his this weekend as he just got back from a 3 week deployment and she had done his shopping for him.then she was on the phone for ages chatting to him as his daughter was at a party at her house the following day. I told him i knew they were still friends but didn't realise they were so close.He reassured me there was nothing in it and that he loved me and it was me he wanted to be with.He said they were there for each other and the kids were still really close and thats how it has always been. I went with him to her house the next day to drop his daughter off and we went in for coffee, maybe he was trying to prove a point. She was chatting to him about old times and what he was up to while he was away. She seemed to know more than me. I felt a little uncomfortable to say the least. the following morning she rang him 3 times for one thing or another as his daughter apparently left something at her house. I heard him say he would go round later. I was driving home that afternoon so felt a little apprehensive. Am i just worrying about nothing? it's eating away at me as she is round the corner and i'm not. would appreciate your views. Thankyou
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reader, 48years  +, writes (29 November 2008):
 She's after him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2008): dont wuory, theres more to life than paranoia believe me!....... Focus on building trust and honesty it will last a lifetime.All you have to do is get involved in that aspect of his life so you dont feel left out. Be apart of what your in fear of or you may lose what you have through insecurities.
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