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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:My ex texted me for the first time in weeks!! It didnt end well since my ex's sister broke the news that he found someone else to me. I'd cried for him for days and had started councilling because was so upset. Today he sent me a silly valentine rhyme in a text and i wasnt sur e whos the number was so i asked who it was and he replied its ****** ha and I texted " oh happy valentines day " and he said same 2 u how r u nd i txted bk fine. He hasn't replied yet and I'm so confused. Y would he text me?? what does this mean? I wanted to confront him about the problem as he never texted me since christmas eve ( i found out boxing day ). Have I blown up this oppertunity? Have i let him get away with hurting me?? What should I do???
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reader, Deagan  +, writes (14 February 2012):
 Don't start another relationship, don't talk to him, just ignore him. Remember, you had to hear it from his sister that he met someone else!
Why would you want to get back together with someone who ignored you and got with another girl? As if your feelings didn't matter?
Just simply ignore him and continue on with your process of moving on. If you are still seeing a counselor, it wouldn't be a bad idea to talk to him/her about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2012): Sorry to say I agree with the male anon poster...(and I have been in a similar position in the past...)
Basically, you're the 'back-up plan'(for if things go wrong with the new girl), ego booster, bored texter receiver (someone to toy with while he looks for someone else if his relationship with the new girl has ended), and you took the bait...
When you realise this (it may take you some time) you will be so disappointed in yourself for even replying to his text.
Like the male anon said 'Any guy who doesn't have the balls to break up with a girl to her face is a coward and a scumbag whom you are far better off without'. I have told myself this over and over until it finally sank in.
I speak from experience of this same behaviour, but I have wised up and moved on.
Look how much stress this one text has caused you? Block his number or change yours. ANY GUY THAT TRULY WANTED TO BE WITH YOU WOULD BE AT YOUR HOUSE TELLING YOU OR CALLING YOU, NOT SENDING STUPID TEXTS TO FUCK YOUR HEAD UP!! YOU AND ONLY YOU ARE STILL LETTING HIM HURT YOU...Make it stop NOW.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2012): "Y would he text me?? what does this mean?"Probably his new flame dumped him so he's looking for an easy lay on the rebound."I wanted to confront him about the problem as he never texted me since christmas eve ( i found out boxing day ). Have I blown up this oppertunity? Have i let him get away with hurting me??"No point in confronting him, he'll deny everything and then turn it all around and blame you for driving him into the arms of another woman before he "forgives" you and agrees to give you "one more chance." Any guy who doesn't have the balls to break up with a girl to her face is a coward and a scumbag whom you are far better off without. The only way you can let him "get away with hurting you" is by continuing to whine and cry and pout and pine over his worthless ass. "What should I do???"Ignore him the same way he's been ignoring you since Christmas.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2012): Hey there..im in a situation a little like yours?? Iv been seeing a guy for a few weeks,who is alot older than me and we got on absolutly fantastic.It was really going great,then last week all the contact stopped from him.he used to text me every 2nd day.so i text him last friday and he replied.but never made contact since!! until today i get a happy valentines day ;) ..
Eh WTF?? SO I text back the same and that was it. I genuinely think if he was not interested of trying to get rid of me there is noway he wud text me that!!!
now I think in your case ur x must still hve feelings for you.Firstly he was thinking about u and he wanted u to know!!!!!!!
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