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writes:Tonight I have set up a date with a person I met online approx 3 weeks ago..We hit it off via phone and we text when we have time. He has his own business so he works long hours, but he finds time to date. He is looking for that special woman...in my eyes what he is looking for is that woman that does not exist. He has told me he has gone out on dates but has not found that special woman. Well, we had set up a date for last week, he called me on the day of the date to confirm, and I told him I need at least 24 hours notice because I had to find a sitter. He apologized, so we set something up for this Friday. I've only received 4 texts from him this week. He did text to see how I am doing last night. Today, I have not received any calls to confirm..I know he is going on dates, I don't really care, I do think we have much in common, but I feel that he has so much too offer and I will not live up to his ideal woman, although he says we have much in common. I'm a little itimidated by him. But he has what I admire in a man. But I guess I don't want him to call so I can cancel, I feel so confused. And out of the blue my ex boyfriend called wanting to talk. Should I go on this date? If not how can I tell this man to wait at least 2 weeks until I get myself ready.
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reader, empop +, writes (20 November 2009):
You need to get yourself some confidence - just remember, if someone's willing to go on a date with you, you're just as good as them. If you don't have confidence, pretend like you do.
Don't cancel. Go on your date - remember, you're super awesome and he should be happy to spend time with you. You hit it off over the phone for a reason, you have potential with this guy. Just try to have a good time, and if it's only a one time thing, at least you had a good night. If it's longer than that, then even better.
If he hasn't called to confirm a date with you, you should call him to confirm. It will look confident if you seem completely casual and unembarrassed that you're doing so, just say "Hey, I just wanted to call and check if we're still on for tonight - I'm looking forward to seeing you." Being able to express your interest in a classy way is a good trait to develop. If you fawn over him too much because you admire him, you'll seem desperate, but if you're too distant with him because you're intimidated by him, you'll seem bitchy or disinterested. Hit a balance of telling him honestly that you enjoy his company, without overdoing it or flattering him.
Your ex is just a distraction, don't talk with him right now. Wait until after the weekend.
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