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male
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:Hello everybody,I have a beautiful girlfriend who I love very much...however the constant male attention she receives is causing me some self-confidence issues.I'm not exactly the worlds best looking bloke, so how do I deal with better looking men who are clearly ogling her? She doesn't 'invite' the attention; and I know (or at least hope...) she wouldn't cheat on me, but it still makes me insecure.I've tried to talk to her about it, but she just brushes it off as nonsense. We are both 23 and have been together for nearly 2 years. We get along very well and share many interests; however it just makes me unsettled when I see talk, dark, handsome men with broad shoulders looking at her...someone even offered to buy her a drink when I was standing right next to her!!I know love is more than just skin deep; and I know I should be 'happy' that men are looking at her, but when I see males who are lot better looking than me eyeing up my girlfriend it gets me nervous.Any advice would be appreciated.
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reader, Dr Vendetta +, writes (16 July 2008):
 one question.
Who does she go home with at the end of everynight?
i rest my case.
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reader, scrazy  +, writes (16 July 2008):
 You need to look at these guys in a different light.
These are the guys she COULD have. But never will because she has you and do you know why?
Because you're quite the catch and she LOVES YOU. Not them, YOU!
Does your girlfriend even care about the attention she's getting? Because it doesn't sound like it.
And about the guy who asked to buy her a drink while you were there - it sounds like you two weren't giving off signals you were together. Maybe just friends going out for a drink?
Hold her hand in public, wrap an arm around her waist or shoulders. Kiss the side of her head. Flirt a little with her!
Just remember she's your girlfriend and she doesn't want anyone else!
Take Care! XO
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2008): My partner is also extremely attractive, finest pair of legs I've ever seen and a smile to match, and I have total faith that she wouldn't go off with anyone else. Unless he was called Cliff Richard or Barry Manilow that is. But let's face it - that ain't going to happen.
A little story: We'd gone out to our local pub after moving to our new house. While I was up at the bar getting drinks another guy who was sitting at the same table asked her out to dinner sometime. He knew only too well that she was with me but I guess he just tried his luck when he got the chance. His wife was at another table chatting to her friends. The whole pub heard my other half tell him "You can look - but don't even *THINK* about touching!" He slunk back to his wife with his tail between his legs and was ridiculed by just about everyone present - and I dare say his missus had a word or two in his ear when they got home.
Maybe your girl should try this sort of approach if she's as committed to you as you are to her - and if it happens again.
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reader, bubbloo24  +, writes (16 July 2008):
 Emilyanswers is so right!
Whenever you see these other guys, just think to yourself " Haha losers! She's mine! She chose me!!" If she wanted another guy she'd have gone off with them wouldn't she, but she wants to be with YOU and ONLY you :)
Take care xx
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (16 July 2008):
She could obviously waltz off and have any man she likes, but SHE CHOSE YOU!!!!!
You are the one man in her world. I understand why you could feel insecure but when ever some guy checks her out just give her a kiss. How close are you when you go out together? You say a man came up while you were right there, but perhaps he just didn't realise you were together. Hold her hand, be more affectionate, flirt with her.
You have a gorgeous girlfriend, enjoy it!!
Good Luck!! xx
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