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writes:Hi all, not been around for a while, but after 8 1/2 months I'm single again.Mine and my ex's relationship was pretty good to say the least. This is the first serious girlfriend I've had if you don't include the 2 year long distance relationship I had from 2005 - 2007. My latest ex showed me that I can find love after my first love, and she will always be special to me. I told her this last night in what was a very emotional evening.We met at university and of course summer has come and it's time for us to go home. The problem is that she is going to America for a placement year in October. To avoid the relationship fizzling out, we decided it was best to leave our relationship at university and go our separate ways.We both still want to maintain contact and hopefully maintain a form of friendship. I wonder what is the best way to do this? It's a difficult transition to make. We must go from talking atleast 3 times a day to talking once in a while, and I know that that isn't going to be easy for either of us.How can we do this? Please help anyway you can. I know the sensible thing to do would be to cut contact altogether, but I promised her we'd keep in touch, and after everything we've been through together I want to make an effort. Please help me!
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reader, Andy00 +, writes (9 June 2010):
Andy00 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Sound advice, thank you very much!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2010): E-mails once a week or less, they can be long and detailed if you want but limiting contact to one day a week means 6 that you can be doing other things and not thinking about her.
The less contact and the less detail the better.
Delete each others numbers and block each other on social networking sites. Just for a while, to stop the temptation to call when drunk or checking up on each others profiles. Block her on all your IM programs and stuff too.
You can undo all that in the future when you're ready.
Give her back all her stuff and put any pictures, gifts etc that you have of her in a box and put them somewhere out of sight. Look for new music to listen to, that wont remind you of her. The usual stuff you're supposed to do really, just keep in contact through email.
Look if in the future you find still having her in your life is preventing you from moving then you might have to reconsider no contact. Good luck.
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