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writes: Im a single mom of two teenage girls and have been dating a man for over a year were expecting a child im scheduled to be induced on monday dec 4th and today he told me he dont want anything to do with me to take him to child support. i found out he has 5 other children a few months ago. i need help i wasnt planning on being a single parent again what should i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2006): I am sorry this has happened to you. This poor baby does not deserve to have a life where it's father does not love it's mother. Has this man actively helped raise his other children? Is he involved in their lives, as a role model? If not, then you know what to expect from him and that isn't much. He is not father material and never will be. You will have to call in help from your own family, as much as possible. You will have to support this child in some way, so you will need to work, of course. I hope you will choose to raise your child in an stimulating, healthy environment with responsible, loving people. That is your first priority. For the child's sake, you should invite and encourage his father to participate. But be ready, he may not want this. All you can do it try. But yes, make absolutely sure he supports your child financially, as he is required to do so, by law. As far as getting help, talk to your doctor, who could possibly put you in touch with the right agencies...who are there to help single Mothers get back on their feet. Good luck dear and please be strong. You are in my thoughts.
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