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writes:I am 14 years old and My boy friend is 19 years old. I really like him a lot.I am very mature for my age. People dont believe that i am only 14 years old. Every guy around my age arent mature and i hate that so much so I tend to go to older guys. My friends keep on saying that hes to old for me. The age difference is 5 years but does age really matter. I really need help. Do you have an suggestions? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2008): I think you shouldnt go out with a 19 year old,you are to young maybe a year older but 4. listen to your friends, they know everything
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2007): well i think its a good idea for you to date him cause im 14 and im dating a 19 yr old to and im inlove with him. im also very mature for my age and dont like boys my age. my dad doesnt exactly agree with me but i told him age aint nothin but a number and you cant help who you fall inlove with and also him and my mom are like 12 yrs apart so i told him im just gonna be like my mom and marry and older man even if its only 5 yr. at first i had to sneak around to see him and i hid it but then he looked me in the eyes one day on the couch and told me he is inlove with me!!!!! i was so happy and now it doesnt matter what ppl think cause i have him and thats all i want.
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reader, xAmiexBaybiix +, writes (18 April 2007):
 Awww this sounds soo familiarr to my life as a fourteen year old although i am now in a relationship with someone my own age for the first time and im happier. carry on if you really like him then go for it i've alwayss been mistaken for being older and i hang around with older people . basically 19 yr olds have the mentality of someone you'd expect to have at our age, unfortunately boys mature slower than us which is a shame, but i completely understand your reeasons for being with him. so just be happy just dont let him pressure you into anything and just remember you are still 14 so some rules still do apply and that can be rather annoyin sometimes bt thats life =) hope i helpedd
L O t s O f L O v e - - x
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2007): In your case yes it does matter, becasuse of sex. You are under the legal age and he is way over it ... what happens if he tries to push u into sex? I no your will probably say he isnt like that, or he is different to other guys, well he may be but sex is very important for men around that age ...
Im 15 now, and i already had this happened to me, my friends all acted the same because the guy who i went out wid last summer was 19 going on 20 ... 5 years, we didnt last because of this but its your decision... see what feels best, he wont be the only boy in yourlife huni x
trust me :)
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reader, Bailey J  +, writes (11 April 2007):
 As you are 14 years old and he is 19 years old I would say that it does matter. Even though you are mature for your age you still have a lot to learn and you can only do that by growing older each year. With each year that passes you become to understand more about the world and people… your boyfriend’s had 5 more years to experience this, so his way of thinking will be different to yours, (even if you don’t see it)
You are still very young and should live your youth before entering an older relationship. I know you think your boyfriend is the one who you will be with for the rest of your life, but he won’t be… and you may find that you end up breaking up because of the age difference.
Most important in the eyes of the law your relationship inst ok – especially if your having sex… your boyfriend could get into trouble. However make your own decision but make sure you make them on how you feel and what you want… no one can tell you not to be in this relationship, so just make sure your always happing in what steps to take with your boyfriend.
Take Care
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reader, Wendyg +, writes (11 April 2007):
 In the eyes of the law, dependant on which state you are in, yes this could be deemed as improper! If you were older 18-21 then 5 years age gap I would say is not that much.
But as you are only 14 and he is 19, your a minor he isnt this could all get very messy, dependant on which state you live in.
Dont forget sexaul consent is not until you are 16, most places 18... and thats with a partner that is about the same age as you... Because when you turn 16 your bf will be older than you by 5 years, it could/may be deemed inproper for relations of a sexual nature to take place.
Now yes it looks as though im jumping steam ahead here, but these are things that you need to consider, think about it hes way ahead of you by 5 years already... and yes you like him, but is now the right time to be dating someone so much older than you ? Will he be wanted sexual relations that you cant give him, or if you do give in, it could be against the law ?
Think carefully what you both want from this, and given that he is that much older he could be wanting a whole lot of different things to you.
Take care x
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reader, XKelseyX +, writes (11 April 2007):
 i'm 17 and when i was your age i also went out with a lad hu was 19 and my friends acted the same! i was lucky because this guy was really nice and he didn't rush me into anything, if you like and trust this guy then all you have to do is show your friends wot you see in him x
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