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writes:I went on a blind date the other day and it turned out to be a disaster. The lady that set me up is a co-worker and she told me that he was a great catch, a really nice guy with his own business. She said that he asked her at a New Years party if there were any cute girls from her work that she could hook him up with. So she asked me! I'm 27 and he is 32. I told my co-worker I'd like to meet him for a coffee under the condition that her and her husband (who is friends with my date) attend so I wouldn't be so nervous. I told her I was shy and hadnt dated in a while.This is how it went: I showed up and my friend and her husband were already there. My date was late, and when he showed up he was pretty rude to me. He didn't ask me any questions and just talked about himself or to his friend (my husband). When my friend and her husband said they had to leave, my date looked at his watch and said he had to leave. He never asked for my number or indicated that he wanted to see me again. He came across as cold, boring, and downright arrogant.My question is do I have a right to be upset? Was he rude or am I just overeacting? And what am I going to say to my friend when I see her at work? Should I just let her bring the date up?
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (9 January 2006):
I think you do have the right to be upset, as anyone who is rude, is well upsetting. So you do have the right. Yet that doesn't mean he came off the wrong way. Some people when you first meet them appear to be rude and not interested, when really they are just soooooo shy ( i know you are shy yet every shy person deals with it differently) and scared to open themselves up and be nice, because they would be making themself 'vunerable' and show that they have feelings and can be hurt. I have alot of friends like that in fact. People think they are just plain snobby, but really they are just nervous. Yet still he could just be a person like that! In my opinion if he couldnt manage to bring a smile to his dial once for you then hes not worth it! Because thats the least he could of done to give you one smallllll little hint.
I would really try not to worry about ti to much. If your co worker brings it up, just say whats feels right. I think you could either be upfront and honest and let her know you thoguht he was rude, then maybe she will give you to some insight why this 'great catch' was like that. Or you could just say you didnt really think he was your type but thanks for trying.
It all depends on whether or not you even want to consider going out wiht him again. But from waht I read, i woudlnt, whether the reason he was so rude was because he was shy or not, those people aren't that great to be with, so I say just forget about it.
good luck with dating in the future :)
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reader, Dawnest +, writes (9 January 2006):
he was press ganged into going on a blind date with you by your friend and rather than act the gentleman, he dealt with it by being cold and boorish.
Tell your friend that you realise he must be a nice guy but your first impressions of him made you want to stick your fingers down your throat.
tell her there is no second chance but thank her and say how much you apreciate the hard work she did in setting it up for both of you.
She means well but next time she says she has suomeone "perfect for you", find an excuse not to be available.
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