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writes: I met a lovely guy on line a few months ago. The first day we spent together was great. I then subsequently spent two full weekends with him in June and July. Things progressed quickly. He lived over 100 miles form me so a lot of the communication was via e-mail etc. all good, except that after spending the second weekend together I felt that he wasn't right for me, the older I get the more I seem to know what I want. So, I phoned him and explained that I didn't feel the same as him. Cut a long story short, it was all very amicable and we have remained in touch. To start with I wanted to be just friends, then I thought that perhaps I was a bit hasty in not giving it enough time. Anyway - one thing led to another and we are planning to meet again soon. He is very keen on me and I am actually looking forward to seeing him again. Reading this back sounds like I don't know what I want?! Well, that's what I thought in a way. He is not putting any pressure on things and I feel much better about it, we are not putting a status on it just going to see how things go. I think that only time will tell if there is any future, I told him I can not make any promises and wouldn't want to hurt him. Perhaps initially we did jump in quickly - at least I know I did, then suddenly it was like a switch had been turned off! I hope that I am not going to end up disappointing him, but having had some time apart and now I understand him a bit better I really want to give it a go, but without any pressure, just to enjoy and see where things lead. I guess it would be great to get a man's view on this but I am very happy to hear anyone's thoughts on this matter. I want to do the right thing and want to be sure that this is the right thing to do. Reply to this Question
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reader, petina1  +, writes (2 September 2010):
 Sounds to me that you are doing it all the right way, taking it a bit slower. Spending two weeks together with someone you don't really know personally can be very hard. At least you both want another go at it. I'm sure there could be something for you at the end of the day. Good luck. Hope this helps
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