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writes:I've just got back into a relationship after a year of being single, due to a very messy break up where my heart was left completley broken.I'm SO scared of being hurt by my new boyfriend and I'm so worried that he's using me because thats what happened before.I don't think I could ever go through something like that, and I don't know what to do.Shall I just talk to my new boyfriend about it? or shall I just stop being so paranoid? Reply to this Question
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reader, JUSTBROWSING  +, writes (14 October 2008):
 you have your whole life ahead of you, and everyone is not the same, when that someone comes around you give that person an equal chance, just keep your guard up don't fall to hard, but in reality, focus on your education sweetheart men overcrowd this world so take your time.(smile)they aint going nowhere
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2008): I'm pretty new to this site, I think an old friend of mine used it before and this comment struck particularly close to home, so I thought I'd man up and try and be of some help.
Anyways, I once broke up with this girl like you (though, yours is with a guy lol) Biggest mistake ever, she moved on about a year after and to be honest I was a complete asshole after the break up, most of us guys are FYI...
I dunno why I was, I genuinely didnt know what I wanted and I think she thought I was stringing her along (if that makes any sense) anyways, to your dilemma.
I'd say in retrospect you should really talk it out with your boyfriend, that's the gamble of relationships and love. You give a certain part of yourself like a bet and hope you get the jackpot, but the stakes are so high that 9 times out of 10 you lose. The trick is to judeg if someone is worth that bet and sicne he's your boyfriend I'd assume so.
You firstly need to talk to your boyfriend here, that's the main thing. Trust is the most important aspect in a relationship. After that, if you guys still have problems just come back here.
Oh and btw - you're not being paranoid! Perfectly natural to be scared of getting your heart broken.
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