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writes:If you love someone and you know its different simply by the way things are and the way they look at you and the history you have together, but it was for the best at the time you weren’t together. As time has moved on and those looks still exist, and you may have also given the impression a long the way that you care but accept its best to be apart, is it best to fight for what you want, is best to stake your claim, in the case of a women who clearly has interest is it best to pursue her or let her go to make her on mind up.My story is simple, I was replaced by a bad boy so to speak, I didn’t fight for her I walked away saying ok. I know he is know good for her and I know she knows. We have remained civil, but there is still something there, a blind man can see, the looks the atmosphere, its not indifference.Do I resurface and pursue her or do I stand by and wait for this woman, until he makes a mistake, which he will, but will she realise I care, and ultimately maybe my actions made her feel less than important.. Do I fight or flight ??? And if I fight how do I do it ??? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2008): If you love someone and you want them, I say FIGHT for them, at least you can say you tried!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2008): My best advice is that you need to be 'on ice' with this woman. Chemistry/love/passion/destiny call it what you like but I know you cannot ignore it. However accept now is not your time. She may learn from this other guy or she may not. In the meantime I recommend you strengthen yourself and look at your own life in detail to see what you want from it. There is nothing more attractive than a guy who has a lot to offer, knows himself yet is not arrogant and has confidence in his future. Being mentally healthy yourself will help you make informed, balanced decisions about this woman. Challenge yourself and if you really want her there will be a right time for it to happen. If you muscle in and fight for it head on you will just look desperate. If she has something about her she will make comparisons and the right thing will happen - just make sure you are still on her radar. I hope this helps.
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