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writes:Hi, I am an unmarried virgin girl.For the last two years iam in friendship with a married man. He is asking me for sex and to spend 3 nights with him.He says that it will not affect my future marriage.I am tempted to have sex with him. What should i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2009): after you have sex with him, plse do not attempt to "renew your virginity" as so many of women in your area believe, don't let another unsuspecting man think he is getting a virgin when you are not. you know in your culture you will be seen as used goods and the stink will come out. it always does.
if you want to be a whore for 3 days then go ahead, no one here can change your mind. you obviously do not care that he is married, do you. well, you are an adult and can do as you please. don't you know married men are forbidden. you will bring shame to your family, or don't you even care. i hope this mans wife creates a stink in your village just to teach you a lesson.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2009): PLLLLEEAASSSEEE DOONNNTT DOO IT!!!!!!!!!!!
reasons why not to:
1. because its wrong to his wife.
2. becuase you know it is wrong, follw your conscience
3. because there are tons of better guys out there that you could end up with and have sex with instead
4. try to put yourself in his wife's prospective
if your tempted, say to yourself "I'm better than that."
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2009): Please please do not lose it to him. You WILL regret it. From the information you provided he has been upfront about the whole situation. He probably wants a weekend away with you for a few sex sessions. And then he'll go back to his wife. It WILL affect your future marriage. I'm not sure if you're religious or not, but this is even more reason not to do it, as you would be doing it for the wrong reasons. Keep it until you are with someone you love and trust and who feels the same way about you. If your virginity means anything to you, DON'T DO IT!
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reader, BusDriver  +, writes (28 June 2009):
 Nope - that would not be a wise choice!
1. You are cheating yourself - this man can not give as much to you as you are willing to give to him. HE IS MARRIED
2. You are hurting a person/persons (his wife)(his kids) that has done you no harm.
3. You, in the end will be the loser - he will remain with his wife, if she will still have him. And if she won't have him, why would you want to be with a cheater???
Wait until you are in a Win/Win situation. Many women regret loosing their virginity 'too early' or having not waited for the 'right man'. I have never, ever heard a woman complain that she shouldn't have waited...
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reader, Tbonex +, writes (28 June 2009):
 Whatever you do, respect a person's marriage and Don't Do It! He obviously is having marriage problems or is just plain stupid. I'm married and I would really feel bad if I was cheated on; it's not cool to play with peoples emotions. Don't get caught up in something you'll regret. Think of the other person, what has she done wrong to you? Wouldn't matter anyway, he's not yours and vice versa. Stay a virgin don't lose that precious thing to him!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2009): Well, considering the man is married, I'd say, "DON'T DO IT!" He clearly has some personal (or marital) issues going on considering he wants to have sex with a woman who is not his wife. He tells you it will not affect your future marriage (I'm assuming with another man) because he wants what's in his dick is the best move and that is having sex with a woman WHO IS NOT HIS WIFE! He's manipulating you and you're tempted to have sex with a man who most likely doesn't care all that much about you anyway. Be kind to youself, keep your virginity, and start distancing yourself from this married man. Find a guy who doesn't have connections like that!
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