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writes:how do you tell a girl you want to be in a serious relationship with her? she told me that she likes me, and she kissed me when we were together last, but she also said that she's never had a serious boyfriend, that she's always been used (i don't want her to feel like i'm using her). i really, honestly like her for who she is as a person, but i don't now how to tell her; i don't want to scare her or move too fast. if i come right out with it i'm afraid she won't want to talk to me anymore, and i really don't want that. i want to date her more than any other girl i've ever met, but will she believe me if i tell her? what should i do? should i just tell her and hope for the best? i really feel a conection with her that i haven't felt with a girl before, and i don't want to wait too long and lose her to somebody else. please help me! Reply to this Question
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reader, Richard T +, writes (12 May 2009):
When you want to tell her you'll know. You just have to wait for the right time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 May 2009): Just take it slow, if you love her and she loves u it will ne all right, just dont go too fast.
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reader, Lexie88  +, writes (12 May 2009):
 As a girl who feels like she's been 'used' in the past, I can tell you that this girl might have trust issues and you telling her what you want won't really make much difference. If I was you I wouldn't necessarily tell her this straight out. I would show her that I want to be with her. I think that actions speak so much louder than words. I would continue dating her, show her that you're interested in her life and who she is (talk to her, ask her questions, get to know her), stay in touch with her but don't suffocate her.
What she needs is time to trust you and she also needs you to be consistent with her. I know that you feel like you need to tell her this because you think you could lose her. But, if you treat her right, make the time to see her and get to know her (besides all the kissing and physical stuff) she'll slowly get to see that you like her for her and will be more likely to stay with you.
And if she doesn't? Well, then it just wasn't meant to be. I'd say take your time with her and show her she can trust you and rely on you. It might take her more time to trust a guy since she's had bad experiences in the past but if you can be patient with her I bet she'll soon relax and you'll like her even more.
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