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writes:I have been with someone since June, we spent all summer together and fell madly in love. She was the first to say I love you and reminded me everyday how perfect I was and how much she wanted a life with me and of course I feel the same way. She has 3 kids which are great and they love me. This is her first serious relationship since her marriage to a man and i'm a women so its a big change for her. In September she decided she didnt know what she wanted anymore! Literally woke up one day and said this to me, days before she told me she was completley happy and content. Not sure what to think at this point. We still see each other and sleep together but she has taken many steps back, I dont get nearly the attention I was getting before, sometimes she says I love you but I dont really understand that if she does'nt want a commitment. How do you fall in love, spend almost everyday together make future plans and then just wake up and say I dont know anymore :( I continue to see her because I'm hoping she will figure things out while i'm around instead of just walking away totally. Not sure if I'm making the right decision because either way i'm hurting. I miss her even thought we are still seeing each other I just miss the way things were. Please Help Confused
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2010): Sweetie~just relax..Let her find her way..Perhaps she's torn..Give her time to come to terms that she does in fact love you..Remember her heart was with someone and she needs time to accept and face that she has indeed moved on. Don't rush her...Obviously you have her attention, even if she doesn't want to face it..I know this, as I'm feeling and experiencing some deep realities from being on this fricken site all day of the *sigh* type..Best Wishes Sweetie and I hope all turns out well for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2010): From my point of view she seems very confused. At first wrapped up in you and all the new experiences she was having. Then over time it was catching up with her. You know how you feel and you are comfortable with your sexuality but maybe she is not quite there yet. Maybe talk to her and see if she needs space to figure out what she wants. Explain to her your feelings and that you don't want to be led on for nothing.
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