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writes:I feel confused and wrong. I'm 17 and i'm crushing on my 29 year old teacher. i have it bad, i can't stop thinking about him and being around him makes me excited and happy as well as nervous and scared. i need help i dont know why im feeling this or what it even is, is it a crush or love. i know that currently because of my age anything is illegal, but what should i do? do i tell him to see if he can help me get over it, or do just lock it in my head and try to ignore it?
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reader, person12345 +, writes (24 December 2009):
 All that would happen is he would nicely explain to you that he can't and the rest of your time at school would be awkward. First off, I know you think you like him for him, but you like him because he's your teacher. He's a completely different person as a teacher than he is normally. He treats his students differently (better) than other people on the street. If you knew him outside of class, you would view him very differently. It's very common to like a teacher. I bet most people have crushed on a teacher at some point. I certainly have. But that brings me to my next point, he would lose his job if anything happened. He's also 12 years older than you, which at your ages is way too big of an age gap. You need to just bottle it up, grit your teeth, and get through this. Do not act on your feelings.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2009): Well I am in the exact same situation, me being 17, the teacher being 29. I guess I know why I have feelings for him though, because he is everything most men fail to be and I'm fairly sure he is interested in me, to the point that my friends actually questioned me about it.
Anywho, 17 isn't a long wait until 18, I think you shouldn't tell him ANYTHING just now, wait until your 18 or have left school. This means everything is legal and it also gives you a little bit longer to think about what you're going to say and if it's even a good idea after all.
Good luck, :) and Merry Christmas x
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2009): There is no use telling him because he can do nothing about it. He would lose his career. I am a teacher and we are constantly warned about this kind of relationship.
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reader, Abbiestar  +, writes (24 December 2009):
 Awww, sweetie I'm kind of in the same situation, except mine is 30 :S Well, I think it's best not to tell him. If you do he might: report it to the head teacher and there could be an awkward conversation; he could give you the cold shoulder thinking that's best for you, but we all know that would just hurt you; or maybe he would straight up tell you that it's wrong and that it needs to stop. I would say enjoy your crush. I see him as a motivation to get up early in the morning and go to school. And seeing him or talking to him really really brightens up my day. If you want him really really bad, what I think you could do is become friends with him, not harassing him or anything, just casual friends and when he is not your teacher anymore then maybe something could happen between you. But for now, leave it as it is.
My best wishes
Abbie
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reader, fishdish +, writes (24 December 2009):
 Don't tell him..he won't help you get over it, if you did tell him he'd either avoid you or be mean to you so that you'd stop liking him. I guess there is the option that he would make a move on you, but that would make him a pedophile technically which would get him fired, not to mention arrested, etc. At best, you'll make his life harder, more awkward, more uncomfortable, and isn't there enough of that to go around in high school?
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