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Teenage years...am I progressing fine?

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Question - (5 June 2008) 7 Answers - (Newest, 9 June 2008)
A male United Kingdom age 30-35, *ang1994 writes:

Hi my name is Danny :) and i am straight:)

I am just looking for some advice on sexual activites/things, ok heres the stroy;

1) Me and one of my freinds (a boy) talk alot about girls cause we are both 14 and it come naturally i think to all boys of that age, he is goin to be 15 in sept and me in march next year, we are both i year 9 and he always seems to get the girls before i do and he also 'gone futher' than me (tell you more about that later) it really gets me down for some reason when i see him 'getting off' with a girl (snoging) cause i have only ever got off with a girl once and i bit her lip ;( he always brings it up and it has really blown my confidence, i had a girlfreind called laura a while ago and we have broke up now :( she broke up with me because i didnt kiss her, i was scared to loose her because jack (mate) keeps bringing up about me bitting my old exs' lip. what can i do to get my confidence back?

2) He SAYS he had fingered a girl in year 6 and i genuinly belive him, and my freinds around my age area have also fingered a girl and there seems to only be me and a few other behind in the stages of life.... some have gone all the way... I want to know if i am in a serious relationship and it comes to the times when we think we are ready to move onto fingering and ect how should i approch it? I am quite in-excperienced in that way on how to approch things like that.

3) Ok plain and streight up am i progressing in puberty? dont forget im 14.

- Hair around the penis has started growing slightly and around the ball sack;

- No underarm heair as yet;

- My penis lenght is 3.5inch when erect.

- I think i can ejaculate, it takes a while though and only small amounts come out;

- I am thinking about sex ALOT at the moment and i want to have intercourse.

Am i progressing fine??

Thanks for all the help :)

Danny :-D

PS. I will let you know if anything else pop's up...}

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A male reader, Blahhhhh Canada +, writes (9 June 2008):

Hey, My name is not important, all I want you to know is that I understand and I am 13 years old, but understand much.

1) You are only 14 if you have not kissed nor made out with a girl yet dot rush it, you're day will come.:) It will come naturally when you and your girlfriend are ready, once again don't rush it.:D And if you think about girls and sex allot it is normal I am 13 and the same happens to me.:P

2)If you and you're friends haven't done that it's not because you are nerdy nor geeky or lame, it's just because you are not ready for it yet. You are only 14, there will be much time for that later on, if you and you're girlfriend think it is time to move on well go ahead but don't do it because the others are forcing you, do it because you are ready, what ever you do, fallow your heart.:)

3) You're size is normal! No need to worry, if you are at 3.4 now you will end up being around a 5 inch. Which is completly normal! A full grown males penis is around a 5.1 to a 6.2 nd a teenager's penis should be from a 2 inch to a 4 inch. So there is no need to worry about silly stuff like that, also if you ejaculate and not much spirm comes out that is normal also, it happens to me also.

Just to let you know my penis is overly large it is a 7.5 inch, I will end up with a probable 9 inch. Which is to big. So don't worry you're good and i you are also confused about your sexuality(even if you know you are streight I am just mentionning)well don't worry that is normal too!:) So if you need any help contact me.:D

Thanks. :)

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A male reader, Dang1994 United Kingdom +, writes (5 June 2008):

Dang1994 is verified as being by the original poster of the question

Cheers people you have answed my questions wll :)

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A male reader, oldfool Australia +, writes (5 June 2008):

oldfool agony auntYeah, when I was at school one of my mates told me that a girl in our class had pulled her panties down in the classroom and said "Look Johnny!" I almost believed him.

There's no need to hurry with this. Take your time. Their fingering girls is a furtive little thing (if it's actually happened at all) that's got nothing to do with how they'll be as lovers in life. When you get older and fall in love with a girl, I doubt she'll be the type that your mate fingered behind the bike shed.

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A male reader, Samhamss United States +, writes (5 June 2008):

ok buddy, here's the deal, you are progressing through puberty normally, so don't fret. You are just a little behind some other boys, which is ok, I was too :). As far as the confidence goes, ignore him, tell jack to leave that situation alone, if he still doesn't when you ask him seriously, you might consider your friendship, a good friend respects another's request. and as far as the fingering is concerned, I would not suggest it at this point, you have plenty of growing up to do. Enjoy your teenage years without the sex or sexual contact, it's frustrating, but worth it later.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2008):

Hi Danny,

Everything's fine, your growing well.

Don't listen to your mates. Boys lie about sex all the time, there trying to make themself feel big. You go at your own pace, there's no hurry.

Kissing - Practice makes perfect.

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A female reader, Tremor Australia +, writes (5 June 2008):

Tremor agony auntYou are doing just fine. =)

Insofar as the kissing thing goes, don't fret. We all screw up in the beginning (Biting is nothing, I once sneezed on my boyfriend during a kiss). Put it down to a learning experience, and laugh about it - don't let it put you off. Just take it slow next time you kiss a girl - perhaps let her lead if you're not confident. You'll soon get into the swing of it.

Keep in mind that just because your mate /says/ he has done something doesn't necessarily mean that he /has/. Just because you haven't gone that far with a girl doesn't mean you're 'behind' in any way - a lot of girls will like your inexperience, because it puts less pressure on them in regards to 'going all the way'. Don't be in any rush to get too sexy too fast - you've got years and years ahead of you for these things. And when the time does come, just take it slowly, be gentle, and let your girl guide you as to what feels good.

Now, being female, I am not exactly an expert on male puberty, but from my limited knowledge, you seem to be doing just fine. Keep in mind that every individual progresses at their own pace. Some go through puberty very early, others will be late bloomers. Don't go worrying about all that too much - it'll take care of itself, as natural processes do.

I wish you all the best. =)

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A male reader, Short timer United States +, writes (5 June 2008):

Short timer agony auntwait till your older for sex. I know you get horny cause that is what we guys think about at your age but wait till your older for sex. dont be the 13 year old complaining that his girlfriend is pregnant and wants to live a normal life and not be a dad. you seem to be doing fine in puberty.

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