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writes:Ill start of by giving a little bit of background information. I am a 17 year old girl who is currently in grade 12. I have been going to the same high school for 4 years and recently (grade 11) a new teacher arrived at our school. I was assigned to his class in grade 11 and went in with high hopes and enthusiasm. Now, previous to starting his class, I had heard all the girls talking about how good looking or how amazing he was. So when I went in, I was surprised to find that i did not think he was very good looking at all and that out of his nervousness (He was pretty young; 27 years and at the start of his career) he channeled it and made himself appear meaner than he was. So i stayed out of his way. Now for some reason, this got under his skin. I was pretty indifferent and i guess he got used to everyone fawning over him so he started picking on me.For example: He handed back everyones test except mine. So i went up to him to ask him for it. He didn't even search/look for it in class but told me to come to his office at lunch because he left it there. My question is: a. how do you know its not in the class? b. if you knew you left it in the office, why would you not go back and bring it? So this is basically how the year went. It got to a certain point that he made me sit directly in the back of the room in a lab bench all by myself(our class had lab benches in the middle and desks on the side) and directly in front of him. Now through out all of this he was quite mean to me which i think was undeserved. In fact he made such an impact that my marks started decreasing slowly and steadily and i could not really do anything about it. Now, in grade 12, i thankfully dont have him as a teacher but he seems to be around all the time. p.s. please do not think that i am suggesting or assuming that he has a crush on me or something like that. My friends always just assume that when i tell them or they see the awkwardness between us but Im just puzzled and a little worried about is behavior since there is a lot of tension. My question is do i confront him or suck it up since grade 12 is ending soon? I just feel like somehow its my fault, maybe i did something.
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reader, petina1  +, writes (28 November 2010):
 My advice to you is just get on with your work and then leave, leave him behind as well. He could be playing some game, because you showed no signs of being interested in him, he could be testing you to see if he can win you over. Don't read too much in to it. How do you know for sure he isnt secretly seeing any of the other students. Don't be on that list before you leave, nothing will come of it. Don't suck it up. What would you say to him anyway if you confronted it. All you could say is 'Is there something I can do for you, you seem to be hanging around here quite a lot, is there something you have to say to me?' I personally would just get on with other things. There's a big wide world out there full of lovely men and adventures!. Good Luck!
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reader, Abella +, writes (28 November 2010):
 He bullied you.
He negatively affected your year in his class.
Keep your distance from him. Never be alone with him. And be polite and professional with him always.
He is irked that you were unmoved by him. His ego would be huge.
He has tickets on himself.
But the fact that he singled you out for bullying tells me that he's inadequate and misuses his power as a teacher.
Potentially he will bully others in the future. You cannot stop that happening. Just be thankful that once you leave that school he ceases to be a person you will
ever have to talk to again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2010): You did nothing wrong!..I would just ignore him now because he isnt your teacher anymore,but if he was I would ask one your parents to come in and have a chat with him because that behaviour that you have listed is not fair on you.
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