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writes:Hi I'm Sam and I'm 17 years old. I have been working at a bar in the UK temporarily over the Christmas period. I was hoping that after this temporary spell, I would be offered the job permanently. However at the my shift last night, my boss spoke to me and said she would not be needing me anymore behind the bar now that my temporary work has finished. Instead she offered me a job in the kitchen as a pot washer(which I don't want to do really) with the opportunity to work in the bar in the future should they need someone. My problem comes in that there is a girl I worked with behind the bar who I have a massive crush on and if I don't take the pot washer job, then I wont see her again. Also, there is meant to be a staff party on the 9th of January where I was planning on making my move but I wont be able to if I don't work there anymore. What should I do?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (21 December 2016):
 Glad to hear that you took the job. Teenagers should know the value off money and how important it is to earn your own. Good for you. Also good luck with the girl. Get some mistletoe.
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reader, Eagle'sfan1986  +, writes (21 December 2016):
I don't know if employees are allow to date each other date since it is probably ilLigal to fate while you both work together. The girl who you have a crush on knows that for sure. So she is probably following the works in not engaging by flirting with you at all. If your boss Dees you both flirting with eachother you two could risk losing both your jobs.
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reader, N91 +, writes (21 December 2016):
 Best of luck
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reader, samix +, writes (21 December 2016):
samix is verified as being by the original poster of the questionsince I asked the question, I have accepted the job as I need a job anyway to help fund my holiday this summer. It will mean I don't see her as much because she will be in the restaurant and I will be out the back in the kitchen area but I will still see her a bit and be able to talk. I'm going to a friends party on the 1st of Jan which I know she is going to so I am going to tell her how I feel then. Thanks for all of your messages and I will let you know how it goes in the new year.
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reader, [?]BitterSweetFinale;[?] +, writes (20 December 2016):
![[?]BitterSweetFinale;[?] agony aunt](/avatars/7bb1e9ea-6c2f-43b8-a4f7-0635b7eff08c.png) First of all, I'm not sure what their regulations are about staff members mingling with one another. Just be on the safe side of things, if you do not like the job. I wouldn't suggest taking it, and does she know how you feel?
You can't just do things on the spur of the moment because you feel some type of way. I'm not trying to tell you what to do at all. They're called crushes for a reason. I'm sure you're a genuine guy, if you don't take the job. That would actually help you with the co-worker dilemma. And it would also give you a chance to properly ask her out.
"I'd love to get to know you outside of here. Would you like to go out sometime, have something to eat?"
I'm sure she'd love to hear that. Apart from that, you can't assume anything. And she will always be a crush if you don't make the gesture of letting her know how you feel. We can't read each others minds. I wish you luck my friend. Let us know how everything goes, if you decide to take the job. But make sure you're happiness comes first. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2016): If you want to stay near her you should accept the job of dish washer but did you stop and think for a sec that she might have complained to the manageress that you are pestering her with your chats or the manageress has observed that you are inturrupting her work so she wants to keep you away from her.
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reader, Nittynora +, writes (19 December 2016):
 Just go for it and ask her out, stop fannying about lol. DO IT. Washing pots in a kitchen is hard I know I have been there and done that. So go for it and ask her.
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reader, Eagle'sfan1986 +, writes (19 December 2016):
Hi sam, that is good that you have a temporary job for the Christmas holidays. But if the position is finish and your boss needs you to move to a new position. I will take it since it might not be the dream postion you want at all. It is good to switch postions at a job. I was like that when I work at msrshall's two years ago I didn't like beingredients in the fitting room and I ended up quOrting because two employees were rude to me. I should have dealt with them instead.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (19 December 2016):
 I agree - JUST ask her out. While you might want to STICK to the plan of asking her out in January, things have changed and you need to either ASK her out or let it go. Waiting til January is not going to increase your chances of her saying yes.
Can you find another job that you RATHER do?
And lastly, if that doesn't convince you, do you think she wants to date a pot washer?
Just ask her out.
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reader, N91 +, writes (19 December 2016):
Can't you just ask her out regardless of if you work there?
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (19 December 2016):
 If there's another job available that you want, take that - never change your goals for a girl. If there isn't another job available, take the pot washer job. That said, dating colleagues is risky because it can be very awkward if you break up or if she isn't even interested in you to start with.
I'd suggest not doing a job you'd hate just for a crush. Could you make your move before leaving and keep contact afterwards?
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