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writes:Okay, this is abit embarassing, but i don't really want to talk to anyone else about this.I first started *trying* to have sex with my current partner two nights ago, and it really hurt. I'm not a virgin as i've had sex before, but when they were fingering me (clitoral AND vaginal) it really hurt. Masturbation isn't a problem at all. I even showed them how i masturbate, they did exactly as i was doing, yet IT STILL HURT. What is wrong with me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOkay, oral sex doesn't hurt at all, that's great, it's just basically the fingering that's an issue. Obviously i can't fully have sex, as, my partner is female
I'll try these tips and ways, and get back to you :D
Thankyou both for your answers though, it's helped alot. :)
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reader, angel amy +, writes (1 February 2010):
 Hi, right i dont know for sure, but it sounds like you're just geting yourself too stressed out. like when your doing it all yourself and stuff its fine, but i think its when someone else does something you clam up as such. my advise would be to relax alot, and tell ur partner to take it slow.
if it carries on like this and becomes painful still, i would suggest medical attention
hope ive helped.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2010): More like, whats wrong with your partner? He/she can't be doing it right. You've had sex before, and it was fine? You masturbate often enough to know what you like, and that works fine for you too, it's just when your partner tries to do it it hurts? I think your partner needs to be more gentle and careful! I mean it's one thing if you press this or that hard, because you know exactly where to press and for how long and when to stop and do something else, your partner does not!
In situations like that, I find it best to give a few heads up on what I like in general, and show it, but let the partner find their own ways. Because they can't do it just like you can anyway, they never will be able to, so is it not better then that they can give you something only they can do?
Try oral sex for starters, that can definitely not hurt unless they insist on poking you with piercings...
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