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writes:hey wat up, well i'm 16 and i'm in love with my dad boss.we lived close by so we knew each other well i mean very well he would tell me about his life. We started talking more deeper and deeper and only time he told me he doesn't love his wife and they don't sleep together and i believe him because i would go over his house all the time because his family likes me. Well we start talking on the phone all the time and it got deeper and deeper where i want to kiss him so mad but he is 61 and i'm 16 wat should i do?he knows want i fell for him and he is willing to wait for me until i turn 18. But now his family knows we talked on the phone so we can see each anymore because i moved in to town and he lives in the country his family told him to stop talking to me on the phone so now we have no contact that all. his wife left him and now he lives a lone but they are still married should i wait until i turn 18 and be with him i love him more than anything i would do anything to be with him right now what should i do help me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2009): .... Is this post real??
.. What if it was the 61 year old boss who made a faux profile and asked the question to start this thread..
... Getting advice on here to contemplate on what his next move will be...
.... ?!?!?!?
Maybe ive just lost trust in this world filled with manipulating pedofiles and molesterers!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2009): Little girl, i know you are young but you are 16 and already having an affair with a married man. Is that what you want from your life. Is this what you have settled for. Don’t you care for his wife and his family life. You will get a reputation for stealing this older married man and being known as the 16 year old slut/ homewrecker is NOT what you should be . you are too young to even see this haggard /old man sealing your life from you. If you want a father figure then by all means go get one, but stay away from married men. I hope you can be realistic when you decide whether whether you want to be the other woman or not. It doesn’t matter whether you are 16 or 60, it is about doing the right thing. My heart goes out to his wife. I have compassion and empathy for this woman who is going through hell that you have created.
i will not tell you about the legal implications about this situation because i know you will not listen. i just hope you do have a conscious after all.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2009): Sounds like all he wants to do is recapture his youth by stealing yours... and all the other bad things this situation could lead to. At 61 years old he has had a long time in life learning to manipulate people to get his own way - drop this potential nightmare quick!!
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reader, sweetiebabes  +, writes (6 December 2009):
 Don't do things you will regret later. We have a related story as I was in love too with a man half more my age. But I was misled and used and manipulated...listen to your instincts, you are still young. Your feelings you may have for him is not really love...it could be possible curiousity how it feels like to be with him.
Know well what is best for you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2009): This 61 year old man is not a nice person, he isn't a good person and you should never again be alone with or talk to him, EVER.
He is a pedophile, probably the only reason he hasn't had sex with you yet is that your father works for him and he knows the likelihood of him finding out about this is higher and he could be arrested because you are not of legal age in the US to be sexually active.
What he has done is slowly built you trust in him by giving you flatering attention and treating you as if you are more grown up than you are, he is very intimate with you with the details of his life (who know if any are true) and making you feel that he is someone safe to be with and to talk too.
But he is not, he is grooming you to have sex with you, that is what pedophiles do. It is not normal for a man of his age to be attracted to a 16 year old girl. There are laws in place to protect impressionable young girls like yourself who have little life experience, are easily manipulated by those older and wiser and are at risk of being emotionally and physically hurt by the experience.
His wife left him for a reason, he isn't healthy. His family told him to stop talking to you because what he is doing is crazy and illegal. If he were to touch you inappropriately at all, he can be arrested for that, do jail time and have his name on a national registry of sex offenders which is open to public view, and every police officer knows where sex offenders live in your neighborhood. They are put on life time probation, they cannot have contact with children, not even their own grandchildren....STAY AWAY FROM THIS CREEP.
Just because he is functional enough to be your Dad's boss does not make him a healthy person for you to be around...he is very sick.
You are in danger here with this man, you need to tell your father about what his boss has done, he has a right to know, and it is his job to protect you from dangers like this out there in the world.
Do not talk yourself into something with him. If you do then you are a willing victim, which is what he is counting on. This could ruin your life and hurt your family....tell someone and do it now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2009): Okay, this guy is telling a 16 year old about his sex life with his wife??!!
You need to stay away from him and find someone your own age. Not only is this a bad idea for you, it could definitely negatively affect your dad, too! No offense, but how much can you have in common with him?! I guess I don't get this. If you do get together, you'll probably only be arm candy and fulfilling some getting-with-a-teenage-girl fantasy he has. Ick.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (6 December 2009):
 You are interested in forbidden fruits, and are lining yourself up for a lot of trouble.
And your dad, have you thought about how this could impact on your father's earning capacity if you "do anything" to be with this old man right now, if the word got out?
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