A
female
 ,
anonymous
writes:Dear cupid, can anyone help me. i know this might seen slighty naive but i hav'nt ever had that much to do with boys for saying i am 15. And i don't realy know about turns them on can anyone help me? and i don't really know anything about how to give head or any sexual activites.can plz only girls answer these questionsthanks Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2006): One thing you should definitely is to completely ignore the advice of the guy who posted below. Other posters have given good advice. By all means find out about sex - everyone needs that kind of information, even just to know what is and isn't true. But don't feel ever pressured to do anything you don't want to - in fact when you are unsure it's best to keep clear. Good luck.
A
reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2006): BOYS are heavily biased to what they SEE.
Some also like SOUND such as VOICE.
You dont have to do any "sexual activities", dont get pressurised into anything, but what i would recommend is being on webcam and talking, obviously keep your clothes on, if you have to go further just wear your underwear (not naked tho)
If you have to broadcast yourself masterbating via mic then do so, but dont go naked on cam.
BOYS love watching girls on webcam, so smile and do your makeup (not that you need it) you will get some saying "take your clothes off" but the beauty of being at home on a computer is you can feel comfortable and not pressurised into anything, use MSN Messenger and you can block them if needs be.
If you have to you can "cyber" this can be dangerous mind but that turns alot of boys and girls on and can be harmless fun. Uses the power of the mind. Just dont meet no1 for any sexual activities or meet up with people you dont know in real life.
You can also talk via phone, this can be great because you put 100% of your concentration on the sound coming out of the speaker, whereas listening to someone on a mic on a computer you concentrate on the screen aswell. You could also do fone sex lol but get the guy to ring you, its cheaper! :D But please dont resort to that!
If you serious about the sexual activities and cant wait less then a year, i recommend porn, watching people who has done it time and time again they know what they are doing so its best to learn from the "experts". Even if you dont pursue it until you're 16 it would help and you can always practise by yourself with a cucumber or something.
...............................
A
female
reader, Nish +, writes (16 August 2006):
First of all, why do want to know how to give head to somebody? You shouldn't be worried about these boys, you need to be worried about graduating from school. If you keep thinking about these boys and how to please them sexually, you're going to end up catching something. You should just keep your virginity, that's if you still got it. And if you gave it away already, you should go to Planned Parent Hood so you can get on some type of birth control. The number 1-(302)-655-7293. That is the number to the one in Wilmington but there are plenty more offices all over this state and this country. I think you really should save your virginity. That is the most sacred thing of your body. Don't worry about these knuckle head boys. Save it to give it away to the man you marry. And don't feed into these boys telling you that they love you and they care about you and the want to marry you. It's all lies! Trust me, I've been there and done that and wish I would of saved it. Trust me, you're not missing anything. By the way, if you already lost your virginity, do you use condoms and if you don't, you need to! I know this message might seem a little harsh, but that's the best way I could put it without getting ignorant. Just whatever you do, don't feed into the lies these boys are telling you because they are just saying it to get into your pants. Don't give it up!!!!
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2006): Where are your parents? Why can't you talk to Mom about this?
This is a family matter and values/morals/standards related and therefore the responsibility of them and not strangers off the net.
15 is way too young to be having sexual intercourse. Have you spoken to your family doctor?
There are too many complaints and problems with others of this site about their relationships and how their partners sexual history effects their trust in them as well as has them questioning their value and importance to their partners.
I say hold off til you are older and have more wisdom to make a choice that will not make you regret or hurt you down the road.
If you are still intent on doing whatever you want, please speak to your family doctor about how to use protetions safely and effectively as well as ask him/her about any concerns you may be having.
...............................
A
female
reader, sbw1989 +, writes (16 August 2006):
 I hate to say it- but you are still young. I would not worry about not knowing how to do these things, as these will come with experience. Seeing as the legal age for consented sex is 16, you are still under the age limit. However, if you get yourself into a position where you are required to have sex/give head for the first time, you need to come clean with the person beforehand- if they walk away, then you know they're not worth your attention.
Perhaps other girls of your age are boasting of their sexual encounters but trust me: they are either lying, or being very foolish.
Anyway, enough of the lecture: I personally have not given head or had much experience of sex, but I'm sure that if you Google what you want to know, you will find out. It's what I did before I had sex with my boyfriend for the first time, there are lots of good sites out there for it. I would recommend ivillage.com, as it has all sorts of love and sex topics there.
PM me if you need any more advice, Steff
...............................
|
