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anonymous
writes:Is he interested or looking for a ego boost.Way back in may I met a 52 yr old man on a paid dating site.I was wary at first as he is 12 yrs older than myself, I decided to give him a chance and agreed to meet him.He cancelled our first date saying he was ill but did rearrange.His profile said he was looking for serious nothing casual, yet no long after chatting he sent me a spooning meme.We ended up having 5 dates, the last one he invited me over for a massage. I spent the night but nothing else happened.I thought he liked me but after I spent the night he vanished.I did not contact him. 3 weeks later he reappears, no explanation just says hi. Asks if I fancy meeting up. We text for 3/4 weeks and he hasn't asked to meet and vanishes again. I don't contact him either.So 6 weeks pass and suddenly a text saying hi.I have no clue what it is with this guy, surly if you like someone you tell them and pursue them.Am I missing something.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 October 2015): Don't respond to anymore of his calls or messages. Block him if you must.
He's dating other women and you're his backup plan. You must be an A, not his Plan B.
In the future, if something just doesn't seem right; gracefully back-out and preserve your dignity.
Never give any man the idea you're desperate and he has the right to treat you with such disrespect. A good man wouldn't cancel a date, unless it was a dire emergency. He wasn't sick, it conveniently occurred on your scheduled date-night. Nor would a good man be so rude as to disappear without a word.
You don't have to lower your standards and allow rudeness and bad manners. The more you forgive, the more he'll repeat the pattern. You're too mature and dignified to be some old-fart's booty-call!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2015): You aren't missing something he is keeping you as the back up plan while he pursues other women.
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