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41-50,
anonymous
writes:After 5 years my wife suddenly said that our sex life has never been great and that she discovered that she doesn't love me. She only thought she did. Now she is asking for a divorce and she is saying that there are things that just can't be fixed. We have not yet discussed these things and she doesn't want to try to see a therapist because she thinks its useless. By the way she was okay for 3 years or she seemed she was okay. Suddenly she said that the sex was not good and that she loves me only as a friend. She left!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2007): i feel this is frustrating for you but there must of been something wrong in your marriage , dont beat up on yourself it is better to get over this situation quickly and and ask yourself some serious questions on why she didnt feel happy.
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reader, Lily loo  +, writes (3 September 2007):
 Hi, As I was reading this, i was thinking to myself that this is NOT sudden for her. Obviously something has been brewing for quite a while in your wife's mind for her to do this. She just didn't wake up one day and decide that she didn't love you anymore. For whatever reason she has kept these things to herself, which is not healthy by the way. Even so, I'm sure you already know this which is probabaly making you crazy trying to figure all of this out. It sounds like you have tried to get her to open up, but she is being closed off. All you can do is continue to do that and hope that she comes clean about the reasons she wants to leave. I know it must be so frustrating. She may never give you the answers you are looking for. Have you guys ever had problems like this before? I would speak with a therapist, just you without your wife and try to gain some ground on what YOU should do now. You can't depend on your wife to go with you...she is obviously got her own issues to work through as hard as that is. Maybe if you can gain your footing on the situation, you'll know better how to handle this, no matter if she comes back or not. It's probably going to very rough and painful, but do you really want to be with someone who would just up and leave you? You have to ask yourself if there were problems that you have been ignoring within the marriage. Anyway, i'm no expert but have been hurt badly as well. Hope you can find the answers you are looking for. =) good luck to you.
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