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writes:i'm 26 and my boyfriend is 27, we have a beautiful babby together the problem is his family. they think i'm older than him be'cos i'm taller and a bit fat. now i can see that it affecing him because now he always say how tall i am? something that never bored him before. Reply to this Question
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reader, Oregongrl1  +, writes (28 July 2010):
Who cares if it bores him how stupid is that for an excuse!
his family needs to mind their own business and stay out of yours. but some family do have pull over their son! and they are what you call mommys boyz" that cant think for them selve's. oh whoopi hes 1 yr younger then you i have never heard of such stupid excuses i would tell them to come up with a better one then that. they don't want their son w/ you? and sounds like he doesn't either?
they sound like cruel people and why would you want to be around people like that. get out why you are ahead and take him to the cleaners and make him pay you child support!! take care of you and your child and stop focusing on them. seriously you will get ahead by ignoring people like that don't let them bring you down be a proud woman and mother!!
start enjoying life again smile, laugh and go places enjoy life! and your child make the best of it i promise you you will see what iam talking about you will look back at this one day. and you know what you will be sitting next to a wonderful man who adores you as much as you adore him. and he will love your child the same way. men will respect what you give them to respect thats why they treat women the way they do because the women don't think highly of them selve's nor do they give them selve's enough credit. start walking every day get you a walkman radio put it on your side w/ some of your hot music and do it trust me please. it is so mentally and phyiscally good for you and you will start putting things into perspective and will handle things in a much better light! that they will look at you and think shit? you can say well yea look at me now. but i did it for me and my child because iam a good person and will not allow people like you to bring me down. (ACTIONS SPEAKS LOUDER THEN WORDS) remember that!! he will find his way back home in a good way but not if you do not stand up for yourself! either way you have nothing to lose! what do you preferr a man who respects and loves you or man who treats you like you don't matter?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2010): This is definitely something to calmly talk to your boyfriend about. Tell him that you'd appreciate it if he could tell his family that you're not older than him. Then, you can ask him if you being taller than him really bothers him, since he keeps bringing it up. If it's something that he's considering to be "bad," do you really want to be with someone who is so petty to have made a baby with you, but then decided that something so small as height is going to be what bothers him most?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2010): Hi, it's obvious that you started the family prior to the wedding, what I would seriously suggest is to go back to school, get an education or finish it...it doesn't have to be school, school...it can be a ITT program or Kaplan College whatever the case there are so many Free grants and Free Money for schooling...if you did just one of these it would change your life especially how you feel about yourself...trust me on this I know because I too was just like you I felt alone, I felt stuck (like kicking around inside a plastic bubble) until I went back and got a degree and became a medical receptionist for a super nice OBGYN office...I have 4 children 2 from one dad and 2 from another, I thought they both loved me...they did not...but now I love myself alot better and my kids get to have the benefit of a mom who is there for them, has money to get them the things they need...so it's all good...nothing bad can ever come of bettering oneself, take it from me, I'm living proof that it does work...don't let him interpret your life just because he's the sperm donor, your life and your baby's life is stricktly up to you. That is all.Good Luck! and God Bless!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2010): i don't know why this should affect your relationship. talk to him and tell him if this happened to your child how would he feel? im sure he won't like it. if he's such a good boyfriend he wouldn't care if you're fat, thin, tall or small. i hope this helps and goodluck. xo
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2010): i think his family is just getting to him and maybe you guys need to sit down and have a serious talk about it. tell him exactly how you feel. it suounds like this is a road bump and everything will be fine if you just put your cards on the table for him. he will try and understand you.
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