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*exiPaws
writes:A little background on us, we've been dating since the week before thanksgiving 2015. It was fun and very exciting to build this new relationship and the sex was great! But suddenly he cannot keep hard no matter what I try. I didn't rush him asking why I just asked if he wanted to talk about it or maybe he was just tired from work. He agreed that he was tired and said he did most of the work. I understood what he was aaying i told him the firat night i wasnt good at riding that i had no rythym but he was ok with it. I have also tried doing other things like oral and handjobs but he still doesn't get hard. I am very confused as to what can be going on. I have very strong feelings for him and i think he does too because he is taking me to meet his parents next week. What can this mean and how can I help him with this?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (26 January 2016):
 Most men have fantasies in there heads, but they don't say them out loud. Maybe he is telling you in the hope that you will agree to this with him. Although id he cannot get it up for one woman how does he think he will manage three.
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reader, LexiPaws +, writes (26 January 2016):
LexiPaws is verified as being by the original poster of the questionUpdate we have talked more and he has a fantasy of two other girls with me. Is this normal for him to tell me? Is this one reason he can't stay hard?
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reader, LexiPaws +, writes (26 January 2016):
LexiPaws is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for the reaponse. We have put off sex since this was posted and have been building up by caressing and being more affectionate in public. I hope by the end of visiting his parents will help him to stay hard.
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (25 January 2016):
There could be a thousand reasons why he is having problems, stress and anxiety from work could be causing it, after it happening the first time he could be worrying about it and this could be the reason why it keeps happening.
I suggest that you wait until he comes on to you. Give the sexual side a break for a while so that he doesn't feel pressured and allow him time to relax.
If things don't get any better after lets say a month, then maybe he might need to go to the doctors for a check up.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (25 January 2016):
 You can't fix this for him.
I'd back off from sex for a bit. Maybe that will get him back "up" so to speak.
Maybe he is a little worried about next week, maybe he is worried about how "serious" you two are. There can be many reasons. Stress, poor sleep, low testosterone, low sex drive. So maybe give the man a bit of a rest, see if it doesn't help matters.
You don't have to be a "good rider" to enjoy sex, or even have decent rhythm. So don't take the "blame" just yet.
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