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writes:I think I am the biggest idiot ever born. I think I really fell for a man I met online. I have been talking to him on and off for well over a year, we have lost touch for a couple weeks and lastly for a few months but when we talked again a few weeks ago he told me how much me missed me and was so happy that I was back. We talked about meeting and having a real relationship. We have probably talked more than any couple who have actually been together (although I am not sure how much is "real"). I sent him an email telling him what I thought was different about him and everything that I was so drawn to, after this he told me it was the nicest thing anyone had ever written him and he couldn't help but love me.... then he got distant and after not really being able to talk with him I sent him another email asking for feedback.... I told him that I wouldn't be mad at him if he wasn't interested but that I would just really like to know what he honestly thought... did I do the wrong thing? I haven't contacted him since then but the stupid girly part of me just wants to hear his voice even if it's the last time, but I don't want to humiliate myself any further.any advice?
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reader, InterCntlCHmp  +, writes (15 November 2008):
Are you 100% sure he's not married?
You may have set yourself up for a let down here. Give it some time though; He may just not know exactly what to do or say next and it's tripping him out. Wait until he makes contact with you; in the mean time don't waste time go out meet someone else; someone you can actually spend 'real' time with. You seem like a really nice person so if he is just messing about or a flake then I'm sure some other guy would love to be with you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2008): i know exactly how you feel.ive been talking to a guy who expresses feelings for me and gets me feeling happy and like something good is happening....and then we dont talk for awhile and im left wondering what happened.I wish i had the answer to why men give such mixed signals to us women...but i dont.Just know that hes not the only guy that does this....and in my situation,i personally have decided not to push the issue.I think its a good plan,and one that you should consider as well.If he is really interested,he will come around.When they give out mixed signals they shouldnt expect the woman to keep trying.Just back off for awhile and see what happens.The email you sent to him about why you like him is enough for him to know that YOU are interested.The ball is in his court now,its all up to him.
Best of luck to you,i hope it turns out well in the end:)
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