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writes:I'm really stuck my two flatmates have fallen out and although they say I don't have to choose it is pretty much implied. Sarah went to stay at her boyfriend's this week and says she will move out if Becky stays. If I'm 100% honest I know who I'd rather have stay but it isn't that simple and it will really hurt my other friend, I don't want to lose either friendship. I don't know what to do. Sarah says that she doesn't expect me to choose but I think she thinks that my not choosing is siding with Becky. The other problem is that neither of them have actually discussed the problem. We're students and we've just broken up for Christmas so we won't be together again for a while. If anyone has any advice or had a similar experience I'd really appreciate your input. Thank you x x x
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reader, CJH +, writes (18 December 2010):
 Excusde teh pun but this Christmas break really is a godsend isnt it?
Its very unfair of either of them to pressure you either directly or indirectly. You seem to be doing a great job of remaining neutral so far and the best advice I can give you is to stick with that stance.
Who knows, you may all come back after Christmas and things have worked themselves out. Either way, the argument is between the two girls and youve said already youre friends with both so to save gettng dragged in or getting your fingers burned trying to mediate, leave them to it.
Anything else would mean you becoming a part of the argument rather than a bystander.
good luck.
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reader, Sola09 +, writes (18 December 2010):
Ok.
What EXACTLY is the problem between them?
If we don't know that, then we can't tell you whether it would be wrong for you to side with one or the other.
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