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writes:I am a 23 year old single mum, recently came out of a long term relationship with my child's dad. My child is 5 so I fell pregnant not long after leaving school, I have been a stay at home parent plus studying too. My studies have now ended, now I just don't know what to do with my life. I apply for endless jobs and I never have no success despite having a good cv, my son goes to school which leaves me depressed on my own with not much to do. I feel so down and have tried everything to get a job, been to endless interviews and still no one wants to employ me.Starting to think I'm not good enough for anything, it is very degrading not being able to provide for my son with my own hard earned money, I hate surviving on benefits and don't want to be on benefits at all.What more I can do? I'm behind on my bills due to not receiving much money, I worry some weeks how I'm going to put food in my cupboards. I just feel like I deserve a break now and need some luck. I don't have many friends and I have no confidence to meet any new friends or do a hobby. The only thing I am good at is being a good mum, but other than that I feel I don't belong anywhere, I have started to get tearful and have started to feel very alone. I'm stuck in a rut and don't know what to do. I just wanted some helpful advice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2015): First of all- have a positive attitude, you won't be able to get a job if you don't believe in yourself!Secondly-have you tried the free debt advice helplines in the uk. That helped my boyfriend get back on track when his mum died. I can't remember what the company was called but they organised your debts into manageable payment chunks. I would just google free debt adviceNext - get an account on LinkedIn (job social networking). Post your profile in a lot of detail, and add as many recruiters from the industry you're looking for work in as possible. Just search "recruiter" in the search bar. I have a profile on there and get a lot of interest . Get your cv and profile on reed.co.uk too as this has been very successful for me too.If your cv needs a rework, you can get professional cv writers. I paid to have my cv, covering letters, resignation letters, linked in profile and other documents written by someone who is an expert in the field. This has dramatically helped and gained a lot more interest. I think it was about £50 but well worth it in the long term (the " cv centre" I think it was called) Apply for as much as you can. It may seem like a lot, but remember hundreds of other people are probably applying for the same position. This is exactly why your cv needs to "stand out " and look better than others.If you do get an interview- Practice interview questions probably for week in advance, sit down with someone and get them to ask you questions , ask for difficult/easy /open and closed questions. Make sure this person is honest with you and can help you word your answers in a constructive way.And get yourself a nice suit or smart dress, I think unemployed people are entitled to a allowance which they can but smart interview clothes with (though you may want to check, I know I had this when I was unemployed)Get yourself onto some volunteer work , it's not paid but it looks amazing on a cv. What about an apprenticeship? They don't pay great but the progression is amazing. I started as an apprentice and now I'm earning over 25k , for a early 20 year old it's not too bad! Have some confidence in yourself and your abilities - remember you are not just doing this for you, it is also for your son too!
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (13 July 2015):
 Have you set a budget and stuck with it?
Do you have Credit Card debt?
Your phone, is it a contract or a pay as you go? If it's the first, any chance you can switch (without the costing you an arm and a leg).
Keep looking and don't give up. IF your current CV isn't getting you interview, redo it. Work on your application letters as well, TRY something new.
You can't WAIT around for a "lucky break" you NEED to be an energizer bunny and KEEP going. For you AND your child.
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