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writes:Heylo. I really need advice about a relationship that I was forced into...sort of. Theirs this girl who I like. She's nice and everything, however I don't see her as being my girlfriend, and I'm not very attracted to her at all. Her friend encouraged her into asking me out, and she did. This isn't the first time either. She's asked me a few times before, and I just sort of casually talked around it. So I said yes, knowing I would only hurt her by saying no, and now I'm stuck in this relationship that I'm desperate to get out of! Can somebody give me advice on what I can do? Reply to this Question
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reader, Denise911 +, writes (28 July 2007):
Be upfront. It's better to tell the truth than hurt her more by leading her on. It happened to me. For two years i dated this guy and he made it seem all was great. Until recently he out of the blue told me he didnt want a long term relationship and that he was thinking about it for a very long time. I would have had respected him more if he was upfront about this when he first thought about it. I wasted 2 years of my life. Tell her now..
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reader, Oblivia  +, writes (27 July 2007):
 Well, you will just have to toughen up a little. Tell her what you told us here, that you think she is nice and everything but that you don't feel enough for her to want her as your girlfriend. It is not really nice or kind to lead her on like this. And yes, being passive can be leading on since you not telling her what you feel is just the same as encourage her to believe you will want to continue with her.
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reader, Danny07  +, writes (27 July 2007):
 well im like this im too kind to say no :) happend to me about a month ago... i didnt want to tell her becuase i dont like hurting peoples feelings. but luckly for me i had a way out because i was just about to go into the army :) so i said. look we knew this was going to happen and as im going into the army we cant go out anymore because it will be just too difficult and she understood that :) but thats me. i dont supose your going into the army :) so anyway. just tell her you dont think its working out. you have alot of problems atm and just see her as a friend? good luck i hope i helped :)
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