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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I fancy 2 best friends what do I do?(All involved are 19/20 years old)I've been hanging around with this one lad for a while now but recently been getting to know him proper and he's such a lovely lad, although the process of getting to know him has been slow as he's really shy. I know he'd treat me right and would genuinely care of me but he hasnt really attempted to make a move on me even though his friends all leave us alone for time together, does this mean he's probably not interested? As Im pretty sure he knows I like him.Then all of a sudden while I'm really getting into guy number 1, his best mate starts hanging out with us. He's outgoing, chatty, flirty and kind of everything guy number 1 isnt! He has this bad boy image which I appear attracted too even though my friends are wary of him. The first night we met we began fooling around, although we havent gone all the way his friend was in the same house and knew what was going on. Now although I still feel the same about guy number 1 I cannot stop myself thinking of the best friend. When we're messing around he's so loving and he calls me beautiful etc and makes me feel special but all of my friends are so quick to judge him for the other stuff he does and I know he is seeing and messing around with other girls too..I know the best friend isnt looking for anything serious but that doesnt bother me at 19 but I feel torn and my feelings are completely messed up!Help what should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2009): Hello,
wow tricky situation! but to be honest with you i dont think either guy is for you in the long term.
guy number 1 sounds too timid and shy for you and i think if you stuck it out and tried to make something between you too you would become bored easily and walk all over him.
guy number 2 i think you know full well he is after a bit of messing around he's loud and gets all the attention, you said you like the bad boy image well so do most girls if they're honest with themselves always wants what's not good for them! if i were you i'd cut your losses looking for a relationship with these two if you want to have fun with guy number 2 thats fine as long as you dont let him steal your heart go careful it happens so easily and so quickly! and i think guy 1 will be wary of you already if you have been fooling around with his mate so maybe just be friends if anything.
good luck hope you make a decision!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2009): Honestly, I think you should tell boy number 1 how you feel. The worst thing he can do to you is say "I'm not into you, sorry." I know that hurts like hell, but it'll be what's best, It'll help you get over him, that way if you end up dating boy number 2, or anyone else, you won't feel torn up inside. Besides, if he says no, then he wasn't really worth your crushing on him anyway. :D
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