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writes:Well when i was 14 i had twins now i am 18 and was about to go to college because i had enough money to support me and my children, one is a girl and one is a boy and i had enough for childcare. anyway when my twins turned one i realised James my baby boy wasnt growing and developing at the same time as Grace my baby girl so i took him to docs and they did various tests and sent me to specialists because they could see he was not ok. he never looked at you he had the same glazed look when he was awake noises would scare him. well first the doctors told me my son was septo-optic dysplasia which means he is partially blind and requires around-the-clock care so someone needs to be with him all the time this is a rare condition.my son now 4, he also has autism and has to have hormone injections every 3 days at a hospital + he needs a injection to stop him from having fits, if he got a normal cough or cold he could be critically ill and also if he feels pain his body can go into shock. but while dealing with this i have another daughter and coping with this alone i dont think i can cope. well i have a nanny come around on a Sunday for 3 hrs that specalises in James' condition just so i can clean basically because every where i go i have to say right james we are putting your seat belt on now and shutting the car door now because if he hears a noise then he gets scared, he love bright lights and things that feel squashy i have had to give up my job to be around my kids so yes i am on benefits and feel so hopeless because thats something i said i wouldnt do, i just dont know what to do. i mean i get abuse shouted at me in the street because i am a teen mum and one with problems stuff like 'thats cause you cudnt keep ya legs closed and now you have caused your own son to be disabled bet you proud' any tips on coping + basically girls dont just do + get pregnant because u might end up with a disabled child i tell you now though i would never change it because yeah its hard but its rewarding to x
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reader, maddiee-maii +, writes (18 March 2010):
maddiee-maii is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyeah they are but the thing is with a child with special needs the nursery he is going to start i have to pay for a person that deals with his needs to sit with him and help him during the day so i will need to start work again but i was thinking of doing a midwife or a childrens nursing corse from home just need to focos on my babys first.
i feel so low been on benifits though because i just look like one of them teen mams spunging of the state but that is not true because i would love to work i really would.
my mam died when i was 10 i dont talk to my dad i lived with my aunt but she did not want nothing to do with me when i got pregnant so i said i would never abort and stuck to it and left snd eventuly got a job, house and started from scrach i have a sister who has help me a lot she is 21 and she lives with me so we split the morgage and she helps with my kids because the babys father does not want anything to do with the babys - but i would never denay him the right to see them i think every child has the right to have a father
many thanks for commenting it makes so much diferance someone who understand thankyou please write back xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2010): Was meant to read...
and you might be able to go to college part time and do you studies that you want
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2010): Oh Sweetheart, you have such a lot to cope with at a young age.
First thing I want to say to you is, it is not your fault you son is like that. When we have babies they don't all come put perfect.
They are four so they will be going to school soon, this will help, it will give you some help with his care, and you might even to college part and do you studies that you want, this will give you hope for the future.
Are you getting help? Here is the link the the National Autistic Society http://www.nas.org.uk/
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reader, Unhappy1971  +, writes (4 March 2010):
First of all, Do not even worry about what anyone is saying about you being a teen mom. Its not their problem. Secondly, it would not have mattered how old you were when you had the twins, one of them could have still be born with your son's condition. I also have twins. one boy and one girl. my twins turn 18 next month. It is going to be a hard road to travel. You will need help from friend and family. you did not mention either one, so i hope you have some of each willing to help you. If not look into some support groups in your area, get in contact with a church group, some of them have people who can lend a hand. I can not say you will be able to go out, but at least you might be able to have some you time. even if it is only a couple of hours a week. you need some. Things will get better for you and the twins. Parents of twins (or more) are tough cookies and we get twice (or more) the joy and love from our babies!
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