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writes:I am making myself ill with stress over my current situation. I was dumped 1 year ago by the love of my life and met someone else very quickly, about 5 months into this new relationship, my ex apologised for his behaviour and told me he still loved me and was going travelling for 6 months. This screwed my head up as you can imagine. My ex is now back from travelling and is keen to meet up with me, I am still with my current boyfriend. If I am honest I still love my ex, but I know that if he can walk away once he can do it again. I just want to be happy, my current boyfriend brings me happiness but I do have doubts, he is a lost soul and has latched onto me and bases himself out of my flat, even taking over and he even ordered himself a TV to set up in my living room!I dont want to hurt my current boyfriend, I wish I could be happy with him, but I dont respect him and the thought of my ex wanting to meet me is appealling.I still cry over my ex and what happened (he was stubborn over some arguments and walked away rather than compromise with me, he ended it). My ex doesnt know I am with anyone else, and I feel guilty that I am.My family all love my current boyfriend and say my ex is no good, but maybe he has changed since going away? I still love my ex and that is the truth, I really dont know what to do.My ex can offer me the house, financial stability and wants the same things from life, my current boyfriend loves to go out, spend money, smoke, drinks too much, and is dependant on me and my flat, I find it the latter a big turn off.But at the end of the day, it is my boyfriend who has been the one to stand by me the past year, he loves me unconditionally and I know he wouldnt walk out on me.I am so confused and like I said it is making me very ill with stress and worry, I feel I cant move on until I have dealt with these demons and inner thoughts that rear their heads every now and again.Please help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2009): Maybe it was too soon to begin a relationship with a new person after being so hurt by your ex. I have been deeply hurt by my ex, he just dumped me over a txt after a year of being together. You didnnt mention that u love your current boyfriend you only mentioned that you love your ex boyefriend. It doesnt matter that your parents like your current boyfriend, it is how you feel, they are just worried you will get hurt agen but you have gota follow your own feelings or will never know. I know it would be awful to hurt your current boyfriend but if your still in love with your ex, in the long run hes going to be hurt more. Its not about if he can offer you financial stability or a house, you got to offer that for yourself, you dont need a man doing that for, when your with a person if they make you happy that it is all that matters because you dont seem to be happy with your current boyfriend. Life is too short to be in a relationship where you dont feel entirely happy
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