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writes:okkayy, i think im in love with my bestfriend.. wehang out all the time and if were not together were texing, or im-ing or on the phone hes really sweet and i just like him so much but i know things wont work out becuz i already talked to him about it and that went nowhere cuz he doesnt like me ike that..nd on top of i he likes my best girlfriend and i really hate being around the both of them becuz jelousy is always there and i have a feeling im going to ruin my relationship with the both of them if i dont find a way to deal..ive tried to move on but no seems to strike my interest i really really like him and i just cant stop please help me get over him cuz all i do is just stress my self out overr him pleasee help mee (and sorry for talking soo much lol but any advice would be helpful0p.s. please dont say to stay away from him i mean that guy is my best friend and i cant do that to him just becuz i cant handle reality that he doesnt like me..
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reader, sha79  +, writes (30 December 2009):
Hi,I know you are saying,you dont what to lose him as a friend,but sometimes you need to put your own feeling first for once.... I think the main thing you need to seriously consider is;can you live with the fact, he will get a girlfriend one day? can you live with that? Just being a mate to him nothing more than that.If you can truthfully say you can handle that? But personally I dont think you can, once you take friendship feeling to the next stage, I think it would be kinder to let go now before he gets a girlfriend.But if you can than,the saying go's put up and shut-up,because he has told you straight,you will be nothing more than a mate to him. If I was in your shoes I couldn't handle seeing him with other girls,it would kill me inside. But that's me.The other solution, is you need to get yourself out there in the world, maybe invest more time in yourself and not some much on your mate all the time,distance yourself from him for awhile til you meet someone,is another idea. Leave him to his own devices for awhile. All the best for the future.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2009): Heres a toughie!!! ok, lets see... you said you've talked to him about your feelings and you know it wont work because he doesnt see you like that. Well maybe you can ask him to play match maker and introduce you to some of his friends. But you have to get used to the fact that he doesnt see you like that hon. Because hes probably going to get a girlfriend someday, and what will you do then?
I know you dont want to stay away from him but in a situation like that happening (where he gets a girlfriend eventually) you will have to, because you know us girls- we have a sixth sense and if he gets a girlfriend she'll notice you have feelings for him and could propably even make him push you away for good. So just try to meet other guys like i told you first. That should keep your mind off of that and who knows! you might even find a guy you fall in love with! But do not i repeat do not be stubborn with this trying to push pieces of the puzzle were they dont belong. Because you might lose his friendship for good and that would be even worse. Good luck. much bessings-K.B.
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